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Hi Singh,
Thanks very much for your reply. Happy to hear from you. I am sorry to hear about your job interview, but when I read your story, I remembered 2 true life experiences that I like to share with you
1. Someone I knew could not get a job as an airline pilot at first and he have to work as a bus driver in the airport. On top of that, he have a family, financial commitments etc that make it hard for him to pursue his dream of becoming a pilot. He never gave up, work many jobs (one of them as an airport bus driver) At last he became an Airbus first officer, at the age of 41 or 43! (cannot remember) at his age, many people will tell him that he is too old for that, but he never gave up and his dream came true!
2. Another person I knew, applied for a cadet pilot (trainee with no experience) for a major airline. Got rejected first time, disappointed off course, never gave up, after his “failed interview” he work hard for the next whole year to improve his knowledge and skills, study for his flight license (with his own money), the following year, he apply for the position again to the same company, and they remembered him (have records of him attending interview previous year), they asked him why he is applying again and he did the past year, he told them what he did to improve/better himself, that he always have passion for aviation. At last he got accepted due to his determination and passion.
So Singh, if you really want the job, never give up, try again! Passion never dies. I am praying for you and hope to hear good news from you
As for me, I am still hurting after this 7 months, trying to maintain No Contact as much as I can. We have the same circle of friends and go to same class, so sometimes have to contact. Try not to initiate contact from me as I need to give myself time to heal and also respect her wish for space. But when she do contact, replied kindly to her. that’s all
No contact also gave me a chance to face and deal with the many traumas I had in the past and have helped me to be a person with more empathy for others.
What I have realized all this time is that although the emotional attachments or relationships with someone we love might be over (even temporarily, we do not know the future), true and unconditional love never dies, even if for now we cannot meet and be with the person
I will always love her, wish that she is happy, always praying for her. The memories never dies and the spiritual connections never dies.
I now know what true and unconditional love is, despite the situation and whatever happens.
I wished all the best for you Singh. Always praying for you that things will get better for you
Howard