Dear Kelley: Thank you for caring for your boyfriend’s father and for wanting to do something so to help him. I feel sadness and distress over such injustice and cruelty that is happening in so many households such as the one you describe. Will you google “Elder Abuse hotline” and see if there is an agency, a phone number to call and ask for help- something that can be done? Something similar to child abuse hotline… after all the elderly and the handicapped (and your bf’s father is both) are DEPENDENT and need help to protect themselves.

It doesn’t matter that your bf’s mother might be mentally ill- it doesn’t matter unless she seeks help or is open to getting psychological help- which she is not. No matter her mental health status, she has no right to abuse another, especially a dependent person. it is CRUEL. It is cruel to intend to hurt him, proceed with hurting him and on top of these two elements, REFUSE to get help and learn the skills she needs to stop abusing him.

I would like it if you google, call, see what you can do and post your progress on this. There is a saying about people who watch evil take place and do nothing about it. I have done it in my past. I do not want to do it again- be a passive participant to evil. Pleaase post again,and again, as a person familiar with the effects of abuse- I thank you for caring!!!
anita