Dear Korrasamus:
I don’t believe in fate, predestination and therefore I don’t believe in things meant to be or not meant to be.

You wrote about your friend meeting the guy: “he said that he knew I was the girl for him but he was so confused and needed more time but was afraid of losing me to someone else” Did you notice the contradiction in what he told her according to her remembrance? He said he KNEW you were the girl for him and he is CONFUSED. Which one is it? Know (means certainty) or confused (uncertaintly)?

What I think is that he is probably honest and so are you and that sometimes he KNOWS you are the girl for him and at other times he doubts it so therefore he is confused. Maybe when he is afraid, he knows you are the girl for him because he needs your comfort when he is anxious… Maybe when he feels more secure, he does not feel the need for your comforting presence and does not feel confident that he wants you as his mate. Maybe he expects to feel ONE WAY all the time and is confused that he feels two different ways at different times.

There is more i could read into your post. What do you think so far about what i wrote and does it bring new thoughts to you?

Take care:
anita