Dear Tiny Butterfly:
You are welcome. I appreciate your intelligence, wisdom, kindness and grace as it is expressed to me in your post above. I like your assrtion at the end of your post: “No more begging or pleading.” Everything you wrote makes sense to me and I am impressed by the fact that you read and paid attention to everything i wrote to you. I imagine you pay a lot of attention to your bf as well- he is fortunate in this regard, being visible and attended to. You need to be visible to him as well. It is not a one side visibility thing, shoulnd’t be. Which brings something else to my mind, within the goals work, goals for the relationship- incorporating needs to be met in a relationship- needs to be met: what do you need… Is being seen, validated important to you? how important? As important as giving him the validation and visibility that you yourself need…

Please post again, tiny Butterfly and best to you:
anita