Dear ntt91:
If you tried to have sex with her after she told you she was not interested in sex unless you commit to her AND you did not commit to her (and still tried to have sex with her) then I think you should- if you haven’t already- apologize to her sincerely for not respecting her and her position on sex and commitment. Give her that respect now by letting her know in your apology that her position is (retroactively) respected, that you made a mistake in judgement pursuing sex with her as “friends with benefits” and that you regret that.

Take care:
anita