@ Inky,
I admit i have done my fair share of mistakes in the relationship. But in the previous 3 yrs of trying, we lost the ability to trust each other and more over be kind and develop a friendship with one another. This time, all of the above that was missing, is present in our relationship.

@ Anita and Chaycups
Thank you for your input and Chaycups, thank you for sharing your experience with me.

I can accept that he is cautious because I am cautious about us too, although i am hopeful that we are headed in the right direction. I understand and accept that he is cautious about us because with what we have been through, it has not only hurt myself but him also.

He reassures me by telling me that he is committed/loyal to me. His actions, such as giving me sentimental gifts (something he was hesistant to do within the 3 yrs we were trying because i gave every gift he gave to back to him when we first broke up), by opening up to me again about his feelings, worries, family and basically personal things in his life he wouldnt disclose to me in previous years, and more over he is more soft hearted. I also feel more appreciated that he does these things for me.

I am just worried that he may get comfortable becuase hes happy where we are and stop doing things that would encourage us to grow and develop as a couple. Anita, I wonder though, when you said he was not sure but then is cautiously optimistic, what do you mean? Could you explain and little further?