Dear Perry:
You can read “How to stop being a slave to your emotions” here, on tiny buddha. It reads there: “Always remember that emotion is derived from thought. If we find ourselves experiencing strong emotions, it’s helpful to examine the thoughts that preceded them. Then ask the question, are these thoughts based on truth, or my perception of the truth? ”

You didn’t realize you were in love with her until she was into a relationship with a bf. What changed for you then? What thoughts entered your mind that weren’t there before?
anita