Dear Anita,

Thanks for really putting some thought into my thread.

My bf has always had a drive to be a multimillionaire+. He’s also an entrepreneur. When I met him he owned a very successful company in a great city. (I met him a year after moving home from overseas where I was working as a musician and playing in a band. He still has this drive today. To be honest, it is something that I was and I am still very attracted to. His ability to not take no for an answer is something worth noting. He is a genius at sales. My father is also a successful entrepreneur, so I also feel this “ceo” male type is something I am attracted to and makes me feel secure.

My bf now works as a salesmen for a very elite product. I truly believe he will be beyond successful one day, maybe it will be with his current position, or maybe another. However, I do believe apart of his drive and the way he treats me has to do with his lack of family growing up. He lost one of his parents at a young age, and his other parent is quite frankly crazy, and was for a fact not a good mom to him in many ways.

I am a gentle, mellow, strong woman. My bf can get very angry, though throughout these years with me he has gotten better at controlling himself. He’s never hit me, but he’s punched walls, broke phones, etc. This behavior really messes with my equilibrium. I guess I am more passive, I don’t let things get me that worked up, not physically anyway.

Something you wrote in response to TriangleSun resonated with me. I often find myself feeling a motherly love for him, where it once was romantic. Tonight I found myself worrying about how he will take care of himself when I leave, will he let the food all go bad in the fridge?, will the house come undone? , will he be lonesome?. I really feel my heart broken thinking of him alone. At the same time, this is my one journey on earth, too and I can’t continue to worry how he will fend for himself alone. Does this make sense to you?

I just feel something important is missing at this point. I love his drive, and work ethic, but I feel lonely and I feel something spiritual is missing…