where hurt has been committed by the offender against the offended, the offended deserves compassion, not the offendor.

Part of me agrees with you but again I think this would be a controversial statement to make in the Buddhist community.
Aren’t we (ideally) supposed to have compassion for everyone?
As Jesus Christ apparently said “forgive them, they know not what they do”. But I feel so patronising when this thought arises in me. As if I am looking down on them.