hi anita,
thank you for your insights on this, it has long hung heavy on my heart, so I value any different way of looking at this that I may have not considered.
yes, perhaps that first post was written in haste, so my language choices were less than accurate. I could have clarified that of course, we’ve discussed the divorce with our children, simply not the nitty gritty details.
My daughter has mentioned the divorce in passing, but seemingly with no more or less emphasis than her other general hints of dissatisfaction; so I’m trying to take a cue from her and let her (hopefully) lead our conversations to whatever topic she needs to.
It was not particularly helpful to speculate on what the issue might be-she’s not ready to disclose, but I very much appreciated you taking time to consider my situation and pose some interesting questions and help clarify my statements.
Treen