Hi Anita,
Yes I knew you was referring to my family and I agree that you should not pass your pain on to others but people are not so in control when they are hurting, and I have been a one of those people.
I agree on your comments about a therapist and it is the same therapist we both saw and instead of her focusing on the issue that cause the marriage break up she focused on my childhood and ripped me apart and I couldn’t take anymore and we never got round to him and his childhood issues.
He wants to get to the bottom of his issue and how he is lashing out at me and where his resentment lies with me and deal with it and heal it so he can heal himself and our marriage.
I feel I have to give him the chance to want to be open to heal himself with counselling, as we are all not perfect and we all make mistakes and it is how we want to deal with those mistakes and heal them that makes us grow as a better person.
And the our make up is stemmed from our childhood issues as I discovered in our counselling sessions and I have grown and healed from them, so surely I owe it to him to do the same and give him the chance to open those can of worms and heal?
I don’t want to have regrets and think what if? As I feel you should live your life with no regrets.