Dear Anita,
Fortunately there is no children in the equation and yes it has been very exhausting and heartbreaking, words cannot describe.
All I know is that I want to be happy and I am not at them moment or have been for a few years as I am constantly being punished for his issues and can no longer take anymore, even though I love him and feel for his pain.
I allowed him to drag me down and have built myself up and promised I would never let him do that to me again.
It breaks my heart to see how much he is hurting and the resentment and anger will eat him up if he doesn’t fix it quick and it will lose him his married and life that he has known for 20 years!