Dear Ladybug:

You are welcome! You are making a very good point about “negative” emotions and you are making the point so clearly:

these negative emotion, anger (of different intensities from annoyance and on), sadness- a person can not help but feel them at times. It is not possible to never feel these feelings. And in any close relationship it is not possible to never be angry at the other person. The purpose of the anger is to assert oneself, to right a wrong and it should go both ways.

You are very clear: you needed to be heard and seen, to have your (“negative”) feelings validated and recognized.

To be “twisted to feel bad or worse crazy”- when your mother twisted you mentally that way (and it was twisting because it goes against nature to disallow … natural emotions)- what would you call that, what she did? That twisting… it is not an act of love… (I am making an effort here to not put words in your mouth, to not tell you: this is what it is! although I think to myself that .. this IS what it is, so I recognize it and … breathe in and think to myself: be open for Ladybug’s input, open)

So I am very curious then, what you would call that act of “twisting to feel bad or worse crazy”?

* I am glad we communicated this long and hoping there will be more. I also know that you may choose at anytime to not answer, but for as long as you do choose to continue, I find this communication very special and helpful to me!

anita