Dear Adam:

You wrote that the other women in your life were flings and you have cared more for this woman than for any other. The anxiety you felt with her, when you are away from her you feel calmer. I wonder if in your relationship with her, because it is more intimate than those in the past, if issues from your childhood are triggered.

It may be that her talking about other guys, as she has done (and it was harmful and something no guy would like!) triggered an old injury that you forgot about, and that old injury started bleeding and it is demanding your attention.

I am looking for answers so I will ask you a question in that search for an answer. This question may seem weird, but give it a shot, will you:

The first woman you loved was to your mother, wasn’t it? did she betray your love?

anita