@seekingsatisfaction: I guess you’re right. She’s given me all the evidence I need and told me she’s never had feelings for either of the two guys – I’ve even told her that it’s up to me to get over it now and there’s nothing more she can say/do.
That’s true and also holding onto it all has almost turned my love into resentment when I know she didn’t purposely hurt me.

I want to let it go, it sounds so petty and silly what I’m picking on her for for in that if I was to tell anyone at work (she still works there and I’m good friends with them all) about it, they’d laugh and be like you’re being serious? She loves you to bits. I’ve gotta get that in my head if I’m to let it go.
I think she’s worth another chance, what we had is definitely worth it – the fear of her doing it again holds me back though. I guess I don’t feel as strongly/the same for her anymore but that’s due to me making it into such a big issue in my head. I don’t want to forgive her and then my thoughts go crazy again a few weeks later – it’s unfair on her.

@newlife123 : Hi Anita 🙂 I’ve always felt I’ve had a good relationship with my mum/dad – neither have really done anything to hurt me. I guess one major thing I left out is one of them ‘flings’ did cheat on me.. I thought I was over that though.
Me and her started of the same as this relationship in that I didn’t really know what I was getting myself in for and before I knew it I started getting attached. After it got to around 6 months and I knew I genuinely liked her, she’d gone out and cheated on me. I ended that relationship straight after the confession – maybe that’s part of the problem?

Thank you again,
Adam