Dear Ultraviolet8:

So you and him trust each other and were worthy of each other trust so far? You and him love each other and trust each other, is that correct?

If so, then tell your husband about your “Heart in Despair”- tell him. This is a problem for the two of you to tackle as a couple. You gave up on physical intimacy with him, almost completely, no longer wanting what you didn’t have for so long and he seems complacent about it. Tell him about your situation, however much you need to tell him so he understands your despair.

Maybe it will be okay with him that you see this college guy… Maybe he will even welcome it. I don’t know… do you?

As a loving couple, the way you present you and him, as two who love each other, share your despair, with him… and look for a solution together.

If you look for the temporary solution you are now looking at, that is, getting together with the college guy behind your husband’s back, there will be “side effects” to the temporary pleasure, the guilt of betrayal that will sting way after the pleasure of that encounter is gone.

Talk to him and post again, will you?

anita