Hi Dreaming,

If she barely acknowledged you when you said “Hello” – At least you are the bigger person to at least look at her and be polite. Maybe you should ask her kindly when she’s home and not running out the door, if you two could sit down and talk.

Maybe something personal is going on in her life that you don’t know about and she’s waiting to share that with you when she has sometime. It might be something really petty or maybe something deep too. What do you think? I’m just taking a random guess because usually aloof behaviors like the one with roommate, means it’s not anything personal about you, It’s about what’s going on with her. Again, try and talk to her when she’s home and not planning on going anywhere.

I’m sure you feelings are hurt because you aren’t used to her behaving this way towards you, that is completely understandable why you feel the way you do. Take into account she may also be respecting your personal space too and doesn’t want to bother you. I’d say wait until you get the opportunity to speak with her first, to determine if she really is in fact trying to, reject/abandon you. Don’t assume the worst yet hun. In the meantime, try and focus on yourself by staying calm & loving towards your delicate heart & soul.

“When our lease is up should I move out of the city?” “Should I start leaving every night after work and going to Starbucks or wherever to distance myself from her?”

No hun that is definitely no necessary for you to move yet out the city, regardless of what your outcome with her is. Unless, you’ve already been wanting move anyway, before all this. Doesn’t matter who it is, the end of a relationship, whether romantic or non-romantic shouldn’t force you to have to leave town. No way, you don’t need to punish yourself like that by moving. If you feel most comfortable at the moment or in the future to go to Starbucks every night or go and stay with another friend, till you’re ready to speak to her. Than that is completely fine & understandable too. A couple of days away and out of your environment from your bedroom/the space you share with her, will help to clear your mind. Don’t do this out of fear though, do it, so that you can clear your thoughts.

“She is the last person I thought should treat meet with such indifference and I’m feeling angry and hurt. Especially when I communicated to her that I was going through a very hard time and just need a little patience and support right now. It sounds dramatic and ridiculous but I’ve just about had it with all people.”

Not everyone behaves this way. Don’t let one person spoil it for you and for the people like us who truly care about others feelings. This entire situation will eventually clear up. For now, just be kind. patient and loving towards yourself. Surround yourself with people who want to love and support you.

Let us know what happens and how you are doing and in the meantime. Remember that you are here because of LOVE. It may not appear that way right now but someone out there, does love you very much. Especially on this forum, there is a lot of love and support here for you.

Sending you so much, positivity, love and light your way. <3

M.