Dear christy:

If you and him get back to the relationship you had before, I think the relationship needs to change. These disappearance acts on his part need to stop and some label needs to apply to the relationship, a label that will exclude his disappearances.

If he contacts you again, please post again and we can talk about improving the communication with him, at least make it good enough for you to know where he stands and where you stand in these interactions with him, what are the expectations and so forth, on both parties to this.

As to you asking him if it is something you did… not a good idea to volunteer to take the blame, to assume you are guilty. If I was to send him a message after a few days of his disappearance, i would leave him a message like this: “I hope you are safe and well. Please call me as soon as you can.”

Post again anytime.

anita