Hi Inky,

Thanks for that, agree about the planning bit now i look back at how things unfolded. Just as she had a complicated life so did i, both divorced and so on. Buying the house was the start of the new chapter in our lives, I am now selling it, which in itself is very sad. Agree with the children, I really miss them and their lives have been turned upside down too.The pain I feel is overwhelming and I can’t see the wood for the trees, this is not me!! I need to find some coping mechanisms before it drives me mad…

Jonny