Dear John_1:

In your efforts to prepare yourself for a second chance with her, will you take my challenge and re-write your original post using the pronoun “I”- do write what you did, not what-if you did, but what in reality you did. Be as honest as you can be. Pay attention to what is true and write what it is indeed that you did do that you regret.

If she accused you for things you are not responsible for, do not take responsibility for those things. Evaluate what it is that you did that was indeed hurtful to her, what you did purposefully to hurt her and what you did that hurt her otherwise.

Will you take that challenge?

anita