Dear Ravi:

How about aiming then for Ravi to no longer be a wimp, and instead be Ravi the Fighter. Fighting hardly ever will mean physically fighting. I hope not. It means talking about yourself respectfully (not saying you are a “detestable person”- that is attacking yourself and as Ravi the Fighter, rule number one is : do not attack yourself!) and when someone is disrespecting you, attacking you with words, you verbally assert yourself right there and then. No longer being quiet. No longer accepting aggression from another passively.

Over time, as you practice being assertive, your anger will lose its explosiveness and it will not take you by surprise at inappropriate times.

What says you…?

anita