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How to Find Real, Lasting Love Without Looking for It

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“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.” ~Carl Jung

Often when people want a new relationship, they either look for someone to complete them or they imagine sharing their life with someone just like them. So they try to present themselves in the best possible light for their imagined future partner—either as one perfect half of a whole or as an ideal version of what they believe their future partner will want.

In my experience, finding your soul mate requires a different, far more soul-enriching approach. Here are six steps that worked for me:

1. Stop looking for your soul mate and find the missing parts of you.

This may sound counterintuitive, but it's exactly how I met my husband. I stopped looking for “the one” after a two-year relationship ended, which I had believed was the one. I decided to turn my attention inward—to get to know and accept myself, to heal past wounds, and to explore and develop new parts of myself.

Previously, I needed to be with someone in order to feel content, to have someone love me in order to feel loved. Breaking up with past boyfriends was so painful because it felt as if I was breaking up, as if I was being torn from a part of myself.

What I discovered was that I had to learn to be whole. And when I started to work on that, my life changed.

2. Live your life as you want to live it.

When I started to discover more about myself and to follow my own path, I started to live a life that was meaningful to me. I was no longer following someone else's rules and ideas about what I should do.

This can disappoint some people close to you, such as your family. But if you want to find fulfillment in your life, you have to fulfill yourself, not someone else!

And doing what is right for you means you will be in places, jobs, and near people that are aligned with your life path, and with you. So you will have a much better chance of meeting your soul mate, because your soul mate will also be connected to your life path.

3. Stop trying to appeal to an imagined, potential partner.

A side effect of leading the life you choose is that you automatically become more attractive. You become more real, authentic, substantial, valuable, passionate, happy, and present. This makes you more beautiful in a natural and effortless way, and it will also make you attractive to your soul mate.

Whereas when you try to make yourself attractive in order to find someone, you alter the way you behave and present yourself so that if your soul mate were to show up, he or she might not even recognize you.

So just be yourself, whether that means you dress in corporate attire or resort wear, or casual clothing or more formal, or if your preference changes at different times.

You don’t need to be a particular weight or have large biceps or wear uncomfortable shoes if you don’t like them. Go to the gym only if you love it, do yoga if you love it, walk or surf or cycle if you enjoy those activities.

A partner who you will be with over the long term will not make a decision about your worth based on a superficial aspect of your appearance. So tap into what feels right for you, do the activities you enjoy, wear the clothes that suit you and in which you feel comfortable.

You will be far more attractive to your soul mate if you look like yourself when you meet them.

4. If you are attracted to particular qualities in someone else, find or develop those qualities in yourself.

Most of us express only a small part of who we are. We limit ourselves to the personality—or self—we have become in response to our childhood environment. This is an unavoidable stage in our developmental process because we have to form a self—or ego—that enables us to survive and hopefully thrive in our family and social setting.

And the way we do that is by developing characteristics that meet our survival needs and pushing away any characteristics that aren’t valued or needed.

So we all have hidden or disowned parts of ourselves that at some point we need to unearth.

When we haven’t yet unearthed and embraced our disowned parts, we are drawn into relationships with others who express those parts. It is like we are unconsciously trying to complete ourselves through our relationships.

These relationships usually involve intense attraction at first and are characterized by feelings of completeness. But inevitably, they become stifled by strong relationship patterns that form where people get stuck relating to one another from one main part of themselves that bonds with its opposite in the other person. These are called “bonding patterns.”

So, for example, a very responsible man might become a “responsible father” in relation to his partner's inner “pleasing daughter,” and a nurturing woman might become a “nurturing mother” to her partner's inner “needy son.”

If the woman doesn’t become conscious of her own responsibility, she will rely on her partner to be responsible. And if the man doesn’t connect with his nurturing side, he will want to be nurtured by her. But then when stresses and vulnerabilities arise in the relationship, these bonding patterns turn negative, and the partners turn on each other.

I am so grateful to have learned about bonding patterns because the awareness of them not only helps enormously in my relationship, but they also act as a guide for which parts of myself I have lost connection to.

Because bonding patterns are the natural way that we give and receive love, they are unavoidable. And no matter how conscious we become, there is always something that’s unconscious! But bonding patterns can be navigated successfully.

When you become aware that you are attracted to other people because of what you have disowned in yourself, and then work on owning those qualities in yourself, your relationships transform. I

If you are in a relationship already and you begin this process, then as you and your partner reclaim your disowned selves, you start to become more fully yourselves with each other and your relationship will become richer.

5. Engage with life; accept the gifts that are offered to you.

The night I met my husband a friend had invited me to a party hosted by one of her friends, and at first I wasn’t sure if I wanted to go.

I was tempted to decline the invitation because I didn’t know the person whose party it was, and it was a Sunday night, so I had work the next day. But I didn’t have a compelling reason not to go and I had promised myself that I would accept the gifts life offered me, such as saying yes to invitations that seemed to come from nowhere. And this was one of those.

When I got to that party, there he was: my future husband, with whom I have had three children and twenty-five years of a wonderful life together.

Was I looking for someone when I went to that party?

No. And it was a surprise to meet him there. If I had been intentionally looking for a partner, I probably would not have even spoken to my husband that night.

When you look at each person you encounter as if you are screening them for a job with a life-long contract, it changes the organic flow of events and natural connection that forms with the people you encounter. It is also off-putting to be evaluated as a “catch” and it is likely to make people run from you!

The simplest way to stop assessing others as potential life partners is to just stop looking for a partner and connect with the people you meet with genuine interest. Then enjoy the type of relationship that naturally develops—or doesn't—whether that's a friendship, a business connection, or a bond based on a mutual interest.

6. When you meet someone, don't hurry things; allow the relationship to unfold.

When you meet someone you have a good connection with, allow that connection to develop and grow. If the person is a soul mate, he or she will also be into you, so if you both pay genuine attention to each other then something will develop.

There is no need to play games or to try particular seduction techniques or to achieve milestones by a particular time. A successful long-term relationship is not a game.

Do you really want to be in a relationship with someone you had to manipulate into it? Do you want your partner to be enchanted by an image you have created so that you have to hide yourself in some way? Or do you want your partner to love you wholeheartedly? What kind of relationship do you want to bring children into if you end up having them?

Each relationship is unique, just as each person is unique, so how your relationship unfolds will be unique too. You can't plan for it to go a particular way. You have to engage with the process of it and with each other, and then make decisions as you go. There is no one line you can say, no one action you can take, that will lead to a particular result.

All you can do is live your life more fully, learn to accept and love yourself more fully, and you will love and be loved more fully.

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About Astra Niedra

Astra Niedra writes about relationships and personal growth at her blog Voice Dialogue and You!. She is author of The Perfect Relationship, The Greatest Relationship Secret, 3 Instant Relationship Fixes, Enlightenment Through Motherhood and Which Self are You?. Get a free ebook when you visit Astra’s blog and subscribe to her newsletter. Connect on Facebook and Twitter.

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  • That’s why I stopped looking for a girlfriend and instead enjoy whatever life I have

  • Gardener1

    Hi thank you for such for such a great article. I totally relate to this but have some queries below.
    I recently starting dating again but with a more open heart as a result of a difficult previous relationship. I thought after a year working on myself I was ready to meeting again but I met someone from an online site and thought this is amazing really excited after a first date and wham! I went from being respected to being rejected all of a sudden. It shook me hard and I counldnt understand it other than I had pursued him. I tried to make sense of it all why didnt he respond why was he still online why why me this never happened before. It tore me apart for a week until I realised that I dont want to fight for anyone It is too painful to long for something that shows no interest. It was almost like reverse psychology. Why? because deep down I knew I was also emotionally closed off for other dates myself in the past and that was simply it, he was working through he’s own issues and unfortunately it was with me. But it is hard to just be oneself and not look for our search for “the one” when so much meeting guys is today done so in a fabricated way online. It would be interesting to hear your thoughts on this. Do I just relax join clubs that I love and turn off the I’m open to finding someone radar? One thing I do know is the importance of self respect and I sure aint pursuing a guy ever again 🙂 they will have to want me as much as I want them and i am happy being old fashioned about that 🙂 Thank you X

  • Talya Price

    I have stopped looking for love. I am looking for the qualities in myself.

  • aisha

    I thank you so much for this article of sharing. In my heart of hearts I believe this for myself but then start to question if they(family and friends) say is true. I am reminded by this article that I am. There is no time limit of meeting and connecting with a possible mate. I will keep this article as an reminder when I doubt myself! 🙂

  • Lynnie

    Great article. Really interesting to read about ‘bonding patterns’… I have only met a couple of men I have felt and thought are the one. Timing was always off though! :/

  • I’m really glad you enjoyed the article. All I can say about meeting people is that there are so many ways and places to meet people, and we mostly meet the people we end up in some kind of relationship with (whether that’s a friendship or an intimate relationship or business partnership) by ‘accident’. You might meet someone online and you might not. You might decide to go on a real-life date with someone you connected with online and on the way to meeting up with them, you bump into your soulmate. We can’t determine how it will happen for us. I would suggest to just do what you want to do with your life.
    And, yes, self-respect is crucial. If that’s an issue for you then work on that. There are many therapies available – choose one that resonates with you. Personally, I have found that most, if not all, of our feelings about ourselves and our worth come from how we were treated as infants and children. Most parents do the best they can but most are also unaware of things like whether or not they connect with their children energetically or if they are being unconsciously judgemental/critical in some way. (I have articles about how energetic connection works on my blog.)
    But that doesn’t mean you have to live with that ‘conditioning’ forever. For example, if a mother is a very intellectual woman and relates with her child using mainly an impersonal, mental energy, then that child will feel emotionally that its needs are unmet and will seek such connection elsewhere – another family member or, later, friends. So if that was how you were energetically met as a chid, you might want to do some work on finding your own inner mother and/or father and taking care of yourself – your inner child – as you wanted to be cared for back then.
    I would also learn about setting energetic boundaries and become aware of what my ‘default’ way of relating to others is – open and personal or impersonal, whether I am a pleaser or an organiser or I take responsibility for others. There’s plenty of free information on my website about all this. All the very best to you!

  • Glad you liked it. If you want to learn more about bonding patterns there’s more info on my blog – they are literally like invisible blueprints we all unconsciously follow so it’s really worthwhile understanding them. And you can use them to help with understanding what’s going in in all kinds of relationships. Hope the timing works better next time!

  • I hope you’re enjoying it!

  • The love is actually within yourself! All the best on your journey 🙂

  • I’m glad you liked the article. Just remember that your relationship with yourself is the most important one. When you stop looking for another person to make you happy or to complete you, and you realise that only you can make you happy, then another person will most likely come into your life. Even when you’re in a relationship, it is still you who has to make you happy!

  • I stopped looking for a girlfriend cause too many times women have ignored me and many times they don’t see the real me. So Instead, I’m just enjoying my life and whatever life I have left.

  • Deadlylust12

    I do want to find the right guy for me.

  • So great, this article.

  • I’m sure you will! In my experience, ALL our relationships teach us something we need to learn about ourselves in order to become more whole. So even if we have been in relationships with people who are not ‘right’, in a sense they all are. If you consider the teachings past relationships have offered you – such as being in a relationship with someone who is impersonal and finds difficulty with intimacy, which means you are probably someone who is very personal and open and therefore you need to learn to be impersonal and set protective boundaries, then all relationships are right for where we are at when we’re in them! There’s more on my website about how we are attracted to people who express the disowned/missing parts of ourselves.

  • Thank you!

  • Deadlylust12

    Thanks,i’ll take your advice,thank you very much.

  • franco-american

    I found these things to be true. When I met my beloved husband (of 25 years now), I was at a point in my life where I had decided I didn’t want a serious relationship. I was happy single, and happy with who I was, no matter what anyone else thought. It seemed ironic at the time that that was just when this guy would enter my life, right when I didn’t want it, and I was sort of resisting getting involved.
    But now I figure it is exactly the way things work.

  • Marijana Vuković

    This is a wonderful article. Love is all we are. Thank you :).

  • Sakti

    Thanks for the beautiful message I found in this article, very loving and enlightening.
    I wonder if the online sites for dating then “changes the organic flow of events and natural connection that forms with the people you encounter” ??

  • So glad you enjoyed it!

  • Yes, they do! If you’re going on dating sites and intentionally looking for a partner, it means you are actively looking for someone and so changing the natural flow of events. Plus you have to present yourself as a ‘product’ – stating your features etc, and you look at the profiles of others too as if you are shopping. They have also presented themselves in a particular way.

    When we meet people in real life we don’t assess them based on their interests but we feel their presence, their energy. We notice how their inner light shines through when they smile or do something silly, we feel their passion and compassion when they see an injustice or hear a moving story, we share their sense of humour and love their laugh, etc. They are even likely to have interests we don’t have but through relationship with them they open our eyes to another facet of life. And we open their eyes to things we know about and are interested in that they might not have come across.

    That said, I do think that we can sense how we connect with each other online, and so you can form genuine relationships with people, and some people have. BUT, as we all know, it is more possible than in real life to be deceptive online. In the end you will have to meet people in person and see how you connect with them and how the relationship develops.

    Maybe instead of spending time on dating sites just go and do something you’d like to do – you might meet someone that way!

  • McKenna

    I love this article and the advice is superb. My problem is that I have been single for a year and a half. I haven’t even dated someone for that long and I am starting to feel extremely lonely. I do genuinely love myself but sometimes I just want someone to connect and bond with as well as cuddle. I feel like its gotten to a point where every party I go to or every place I go I am thinking and hoping that I will meet the one. Every guy I run into I am screening to see if they are going to finally be the one. My mind is stuck thinking about the lack of a man in my life as well as constantly thinking about finding him. Help! I would love some advice.
    Thanks 🙂

  • This is really good advice. Living your truth and cultivating in yourself the qualities you seek in others will draw like-minded people into your life. Great post.
    xx Lane

  • Glad you liked it 🙂

  • I’m glad you loved the article – thank you.
    If it were me in your position I would find a way to nurture myself – to take care of that lonely part of me. If it helps, think of doing this from a really loving parental part of yourself, much like you might do with a real child you had to comfort.
    There’s absolutely nothing wrong with wanting a close relationship but set your intention to meet someone when you’re on your own, and then when you are out and about, just try to forget about it. I know that can be hard in practice but if you follow the suggestions in my article about getting on with your life and doing the things you want to do, it will become easier.
    I’d also suggest reading the material on my blog about bonding patterns. Because you are feeling needy at the moment, if you did meet someone now you would easily fall into a bonding pattern where you would rely on your partner to parent you. That might feel great for a while but this kind of positive bonding pattern doesn’t work out well in the long term. Again, there’s plenty of material on my site about all this.
    Wishing you all the best!

  • Jahnvi

    Thanks for the article. Wow. I have been in relationship based on bonding pattern for very long time. No wonder always felt neglected. abandoned, rejected and hurt.

  • It’s great that you’re aware of it now. Change has to start with awareness/recognition. There’s plenty of help on this site and on my blog to help you through this. And if you can see a good therapist, that’s always worthwhile. I wish you well.

  • Simon Williams

    There is nothing more magnetic than someone who is fully themselves. I’m learning this (the hard way) and know each step closer to me living what is truly inside me brings me greater joy, more truth and more love. Relationships are essential and of course they are all around us every day. The quality of them are a by-product of how I live my life – no matter whether it is with my partner, my family, my colleagues or friends. They all present an equal opportunity to be… me.

  • Pocahontix

    This had truly calmed my stormy heart!
    Thank you so much for this amazing article:)
    Love comes softly , only fools fall in love in a hurry.
    I feel I owe myself a big hug right now!
    Blessings and sending good vibes to all<3
    Princess Pocahontix <3

  • Guthries Machine

    Please help me with this. What happens to those of us who stop looking for love, and then months or years later, when a man approaches, you are so used to being alone and have deprogrammed yourself from wanting men and relationships so well, you want nothing to do with him or other males, and you can’t switch it off? That’s my life story and I’m now 47.

  • Mira

    Ive been happy single for the last 11 years and wasnt looking. Now Im 31 and have never been on a real date. Finding love is like applying for a job. You cant just sit around and wait like this article suggests.

  • Mira

    What if you’re 31 and have never been in a relationship?

  • janvi

    I will try to do it.. but what if u have pressure of having kids and marriage at a certain age especially for a woman

  • Arif Monsury

    Dear Mr.harrison,

    Some good news! I
    blame you for this,
    (laugh), I have met the
    most wonderful guy, and
    I really think I have fallen
    in REAL love for the first
    time in my life. He is
    extremely intelligent,
    sensual, loving, and I
    absolutely adore him!
    And, even more
    importantly, he
    absolutely adores me! I
    think we will be very
    happy together for a very
    long time to come!

    Keep up the good work.
    People need you here is his email if you want to contact him Harrisonwells989@gmail.com

  • sarah

    Living my truth and being my true self has got me nothing but heartache , its like everyone dissaproves of my true self and there is honestly nothing wrong with me I am kind and good person but it seems as if people hate me for it

  • Alagie

    Of course Astra

  • Katherine R

    This was such a great reminder for me! Thank you, I really needed to read this!

  • Jane

    Thanks Astra Niedra.It was amazing posts.

  • Happy Again

    Very hard to “feel” these obvious steps. (And feeling them, in the depths of our being, is necessary.) They’re obvious – and difficult for those of us who have long done the opposite. I’m SO lonely, i can’t even imagine having some one not reject me. It’s been so long apart of my self-definition….. I write about healthy attitudes, but i don’t “feel” them.

  • Chobits

    I loved your article a lot it is so inspiring
    From now on i ll do what i love to do and leave the things go the way it should go
    Thank you for giving us this kind of hope in life

  • Tom Smith

    I am right there with you. No one will ever love me again. That is life. Facts are facts. I just learned to accept it.

  • Anarchyy Charisma

    What a load of crap. I have no issue with myself and am successful in alot of ways. But after 10 years of being me im sick of it just being me.
    Feel free to write this article when you’ve actually been single longer than a week. This is a joke.

  • Kunal Pawaskar

    Love is the bullshit……every girls are just want money not a love……this is my story i love my girlfriend so much but after that get to know is she doesn’t want love from me she just only want money……..this is fucking fuck

  • michaelangelo0890

    I was kind of struck with that line you wrote “screening each person you meet for like a lifetime contract”, because that is what I am doing. I am looking for someone already, when in fact, I should not be. What should really be doing is to stop looking outside, and focus what is inside me. Focus on the things that I love doing and on the things that I am passionate about. And I believe as what article says based on how I interpreted it, everything else will follow. Thanks.

  • Christopher

    Astra, your words speak hope to me tremendously. I will stop looking and just let it come.

  • Christopher

    @McKenna, how are you?

  • Christopher

    How are you

  • rubyj12

    I feel so lonely, i want someone else in my life, but every time I get into a relationship I either hurry things or they end up in heartbreak. I’m so tired of looking for love. I see other people in love, they seem so happy. I just want to experience that happiness again for the first time in three years. I hate me in general… I just want to love…

  • Kevin siefert

    Excuse me, I have a question, Ever since my Ex broke up with me(about 2 years) every girl that came in my path I’ve just had no interest. I’ll try and go on dates but no girl peak my interest and got me like Wow!! Any tips If anyone there please:D

  • Daxa

    This article help but I feel like I’m battling so much in my head right now!! I have high guard after an abusive ex and I have now been single for nearly 8 years, it really takes a lot for me to like someone one as I over analyse things and them. I have been seeing the odd person over these years but nothing serious or official. I’m now starting to feel embarrassed and that time is running out now that I’m 30 and just this isn’t what I imaged for myself. The guys Iv dated I would find fault or just didn’t have that passionate vibe or feeling from them as if they was to nice. (I knew they was probably the Mr right) but they was just too nice. I would always be honest with them though and tell them the truth and not lead them on. But now with the guys recently Iv been dating if they start to ignore me then I mentally can’t cope! I find its one of the hardest thing Is to be rejected now days. This all come about recently about a few months back I actually fell for this guy and I knew he was was a lot younger then me. But I felt a connection with him so intense and so strong couldn’t explain it. Then a few weeks ago he found out he is off to live in another country permanently with his job but before this he told me everything I wanted to hear and I then started to bring down my barriers as he said he loved me and I started to believe him and dreamed up this image in my head that we would work. He even spoke about me going with him. Was a wirl wind. But then he changed within matter of days and he turned out to be a complete player and I found loads of stuff out about him and he became so childish and started blanking me and then messaging just to see if I was still intrested, which made me upset and confused as he started playing with my feelings and I have now felt so depressed and low can’t snap out of it! I haven’t know him that long for god sake but seems to of re-opened the sorrow of my last relationship and same issues and mistakes and can’t stop wallowing and missing him, But I shouldn’t miss him, I feel an idiot. I just Wish I could erase him from my brain 🙁

  • SASSI N CUNTRUL

    Wow thank u so much I neede this

  • Truth

    I t doesn’t really come even when you Don’t look for it which makes it real very sad altogether.

  • Dhiraj Deb Roy

    good article..but wat to do now?….i mean ur article is opposite of my state-of-my-mind n what if i have started liking someone bfore i have read this article………. my search was on for a partner before i read this …..and i have found one….but she is way out of my league……and the day i saw her pic i promised that i will improve my self ….i promised that i will bring betterment in my life..and till that date she has been my motivation…
    Every thing matches but our religion…and i know if i go ahead in this path than there are challenges waiting fo me and i ain’t afraid coz i have already started to take the small steps..Mrs Astra , do you think i m on the right path?

  • Hi Daxa – it’s difficult to give specific advice on forums such as this but what I would start with if I were you is to clarify what you want in a partner. I’m not talking about physical features but the kind of person you would be happy in a relationship with, and what kind of life you would lead together. For instance, what values are important that they have? What lifestyle do you envision livng together? Are they willing to grow? Are you willing to grow and genuinely sort out problems? If they want children, what kind of parent will they be? Will you have dinner together as a family each night? What are your expectations about childcare, religion, gender roles, who takes the kids to sport and other activities? How do you expect your communication to go and how do you make decisions as a couple, ie do you discuss every decision to purchase something or only purchases over a certain amount?
    All this involves one of the points I made in my article, which is to get to know yourself. Because if you don’t know yourself and what’s important to you, then when you meet someone they won’t be able to get to know you either. And you will be led on a path in your relationships that may not be a path you like.
    When you say you had the intense connection with the person you met, that may be because of another point I discuss in the article: that when we are intensely attracted to someone, then that person has a quality in them that we have disowned in ourselves. Again, I suggest to do the work on yourself and things will get better!
    And finally, if you are feeling so confused, please talk to a good relationship counselor or psychologist. We all have patterns from out childhood and emotional addictions based on what we experienced in our childhood, and it often takes a good counsellor to help us recognise them and create new expectations, on both a conscious and subconscious level.
    All the best, Astra

  • Truth Of All

    Real true love did come very easy in the past which today unfortunately it is quite a different story.

  • Jim Colonna

    This has been my approach since my heart has been so terribly crushed. Every now and then, like tonight, I feel the darkness return. But it is far better than in my past. I met a great woman only to find she is married….hahahaha…oh well. Back to my life as I live it…headed to Italy soon, following my Zen.

  • Oku

    How do I let go of the “searching for love”

  • truthmanisback

    Sounds like karma found it way to you

  • Anabelle

    Hello Astra,
    It is heart warming what you have written. I agree with that..love will find you, not you will find it. But how does it work? How to stop searching for that one special guy? I am a romantic person and I tend to overthink everything. So even if I am not looking for love, whenever I talk to men, I just can’t to think about them not in a romantic way. It is like that thing is in my nature. Maybe you coud give some advises? Thank you so much 🙂

  • Neha Agarwal

    I absolutely loved it. Spoke what my inner self says. With everyone around me getting married, my attitude of serendipity for finding my partner has been making me wonder, if I am the only one making the wrong choice in not going out there and searching, like everyone else is. I have been working on my inner self for 2 years now and not finding my partner in these years had challenged my inner belief. This article reassures me that my belief does work. Maybe, I need to stop searching and trying to gauge if every new man I meet is the one. That makes me come to conclusions and dismiss things at the beginning itself. I forever seem to be in this space where I don’t see an intersection between men I like and ones that like me.

  • Neha Agarwal

    Pretty much in the same space McKenna. Last year, I focussed so much on myself and growing the inner me, that I pretty much cut off myself from the world. In my classes, I did not find anyone. This year, I realised that and am trying to strike a balance between working on self and socialising too. A yoga class in the morning makes it difficult to party late 🙁 This balancing act has been a toughie. To add to that, everyone else getting hitched by just being on matrimonial sites, really made me wonder why my sincere effort is not giving results. Being at peace with where we are on the journey is also important. Earlier, it was seeming like, instead of getting rewarded for my efforts, I was being asked for more and more corrections. But, I realised that we have to be on the journey also because of the journey, not the result alone. Result will come automatically as we enjoy the process too. I am yet to find a solution to how to feel good when I want to cuddle and there’s no one to cuddle. 🙂 Aster, any ideas? 🙂

  • And The Truth Is

    The very sad thing is that even when you don’t really look for it which unfortunately it still never happens. But in the old days love really came easy.

  • Truth

    Unfortunately many of us were just born in the wrong Era.

  • VeryEasyFindingLoveYearsAgo

    Well many of us good men that really wanted to find love which we can certainly Blame the kind of women that we have nowadays for that one. Since women were very different years ago which made love very easy to find for any man that was really looking for it back then.

  • Zat Tan

    Thank you.