Solve Your Problems and Set Yourself Free with Perceptual Language


“Use what language you will, you can never say anything but what you are.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Imagine using a new language that prevents you from blaming others, being reactive, manipulating, fearing anything in the outside world, needing social approval, being offended by others, and being controlled or controlling others.

Imagine that these problems were simply eliminated from your life because your new language makes them impossible. Welcome to Perceptual Language.

Refined by Jake and Hannah Eagle of Reology, Perceptual Language represents a major development in psychology, perhaps the greatest breakthrough since the days of Freud.

When you learn Perceptual Language, you engage your tongue and your brain toward a new level of enlightenment. Here is a brief overview of how it works.

Principle #1: There is no out there out there.

Perceptual Language honors the principle that we don't respond to “the world out there.” We respond to our perception of the world. Perception is formed by beliefs, cultural norms, religious affiliation, genetic factors, life experience, sense of right and wrong, and so much more.

All of these factors combine to filter the information that passes through our senses, allowing us to figure out what things mean. In other words, we don’t ever directly experience anything outside of ourselves. We only experience ourselves.

When I listen to my wife talk, I am actually hearing my perception of her words, gestures and so forth. I am making meaning out of what she communicates based on that. This may or not match the meaning she intends to convey.

If I am offended by her, it is important to understand that I am actually offended by what I did with her words based on how I made meaning out of them. In essence, I am offended by her-in-me. Not by her, the real person. I can never experience her, the real person, directly.

In essence, I am offended by this person that I have made a part of me by the way I perceive her. In the end, I am offended by none other than myself.

In short, it is not what people do to me that causes problems for me, but what I do with peopleto cause myself problems.

Perceptual Language in practice:

“My wife asked me to calm down.”

This becomes:

“I had my-wife-in-me asking me to calm down.”

This way of phrasing acknowledges that I do not experience my wife the way she experiences herself. She is not acting on me. I am acting on myself with my perception of her. When I respond to her, I am really responding to my perception. I am responding to me.

There are huge benefits to understanding and communicating with this in mind. When I really get this principle, a whole new world in me opens up. Suddenly, I don't take things personally.

I do not get offended very easily. I can listen to criticism with an open mind. I don't take myself so seriously or believe others have power over me.

Principle #2: I am an active process.

I act as opposed to being acted upon. I am my own agent. It is true that something may well act upon me. A tree may fall on me. A car may hit me. Another person may shove me.

Psychologically, however, I consider it more important how I respond to these events—what meaning I make of them—and I do this actively.

People so often portray themselves as passive or as victims in their use of language.

“She made me feel so angry.”

“My father makes me feel helpless.”

“I am troubled by my past.”

In reality (in me) I am the one doing the acting. I actively create my own experience. With Perceptual Language I express myself differently:

“I anger myself with her.”

“I make myself feel helpless when I am with my father.”

“I trouble myself with my past.”

This way of putting words together suggests that I am an active participant in my own experience.  I am doing to myself as opposed to having things done to me.

There is a world of difference between “I trouble myself with my past” and “I am troubled by my past.”

If I am troubled by my past, then I see my past as something fixed that is acting upon me. In this view, I might have my past being something back there that actually has power over me. So many of us think, speak, feel, and act as if this were actually true.

In the moment I shift myself to “I trouble myself with my past,” I transform my experience. In this view, I am doing something to myself. I am the agent. Nothing other than myself is acting upon me.

Moreover, I am acting on my past-in-me. In other words I am troubling myself with how I am creating my past. This is a significant distinction.

If I am the one who is taking action, I can stop taking this action. Or, I can act differently. A new world of possibility opens up when I get this concept.

I open a new world of possibility in me. I empower myself, no longer believing that I am a victim of outward circumstance when I “verb” myself in this way.

I am not motivated. I motivate myself. I am not excited. I excite myself. I am not sad. I sadden myself. I am not depressed. I depress myself.

I don’t give power to other people or circumstances or life to do anything to me psychologically. I do everything to myself. What do I want to do to myself?

Principle #3: Everything that is happening is happening right now.

When we use Perceptual Language, we speak in the present tense. Most of us believe that there is a past, a present, and a future. I believe that there is only now.

I can only experience myself right now. While I am contemplating the past, I am doing so now, perceiving the past within me at this moment. My future is similar to my past in that when I think about the future I am creating it right now.

When I speak of the past, I can acknowledge in my language that the thoughts or feelings I’m having about my past are happening now. When I speak myself I want to connect myself with my experience in this moment.

“Tomorrow is going to be a scary day.”

This becomes:

“I scare myself with my thoughts about tomorrow.”

“I enjoyed fishing with my dad when was a child.”

This becomes:

”I enjoy myself now with thoughts of fishing with my dad when I was a child.”

There may be endless combinations of words to illustrate how to reflect the here and now in our language. When I speak, I want to remind myself continually that I am doing to myself, right here, right now.

The past that I thought was behind me becomes another aspect of how I experience myself now. The future waiting for me in the great beyond is now within my reach.

So, the world I interact with is within me. I actively create it, right now. Perceptual Language makes these healing concepts a reality.

I learned Perceptual Language by attending a weeklong workshop. After roughly three days of speaking in this way, my world began to shift.

I realized when others judge me, I am actually using my perception of them to judge myself. I also realized that what they were saying was just their perception of me, not me.

I not only got the philosophy that I create my own world, but I had the actual experience, along with others. When these principles are infused with every sentence that comes out of your mouth, it becomes your reality before long.

After seven days of Perceptual Language, I couldn’t get myself back to the old way of seeing the world. It was as if a lifetime of being acted upon, blaming, and resisting just imploded before me. What was left? Just me doing me.

The radical sense of personal responsibility—and radical new freedom—will always remain with me.

Language forms the foundation of our perception. When you change the structure of your language, you change the structure of your world.

Photo by Kalyan Chakravarthy

About Mike Bundrant

Mike Bundrant is co-author of The AHA Solution: An End to Self-Sabotage. To watch a free, 20-minute webinar on psychological attachments and how to end self-sabotage in your life, click here.

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  • Claire

    I loved this. Just about every human growth and development sort of workshop I’ve developed (from leadership to anger management to communication to mediation) has started with a lesson on perception. I live this and yet, think that learning to reframe my language, as was done in this workshop, more than I’ve already done would benefit me greatly.

    Thank you for this informative post. 🙂

  • Sheil

    So if I am making myself  miss my experience of a boyfriend who broke up with me, how do I stop making myself have the experience?

  • lil ewok

    Very interesting.  Yes, most workshops always start with perception, but I like the way this workshop continues to develop.  Thanks for the post.  Printing and trying this!

  • Anthony A

    In shifting the control of your current feelings from someone else in the past to yourself in the present, you give yourself opportunity to see where these feelings are really coming from. They are natural, and will happen and pass. The danger is when we do not realize that we are the ones holding on to these feelings… Then we are stuck. This technique doesn’t keep you from feeling; it keeps you from being stuck.

    feel your feelings, know where they come from, and they will pass..

  • Anthony A

    It’s amazing how much our language says about out culture and perception. I love this and will use it!

    Thank you!

  • Sarah

    This is a really great, new perspective. I see a lot of value in it, and have difficulty with one area in particular that I’d like some help understanding. 
    My question is: with this perspective, how do you maintain healthy boundaries in a relationship? Aside from instances of abuse, if you see someone else’s behaviour as your own interpretation of that behaviour, how do you differentiate between someone legitimately treating you poorly (and it’s okay to speak up) versus the issue being within yourself and your perception?

  • Valle

    I’m astounded.

  • Perhaps you would have a conversation with your partner.

  • Beautifuldread


  • barbara

    I have found this to be fascinating!! You caught my attention immediately with “I trouble myself with my past”…..which I have for decades and you would be amazed, or not, by what this has cost me…
    How can I learn more about ‘Perceptual Language’??
    I am so grateful you wrote this!!!
    Thank you!!!

  • I am enjoying this brief introduction to Perceptual Language, a term I hadn’t heard or read before.

    Isn’t it amazing how something as apparently-simple as changing one’s language can transform one’s way of thinking, experiencing relationships, perception of the world around us, and so much more! As somebody who enjoys working on being attuned to my own ways of thinking, feeling, and expressing myself, I am continually fascinated (and rewarded) by the ways in which semantics can work sort-of in reverse — that is, what we say and how we say it can in turn transform how we think and perceive.

    Thanks for a new set of tools to add to my toolkit, Mike!

  • This is amazing. I really feel like this has the power to change my whole life. I can’t thank you enough x

  • Lynnfux

    This is nearly all the contents of the book ” THE 4 AGREEMENTS” if you read it even once you can never go all the way back to your old thinking and blaming patterns.I am a Nichiren buddhist and the book helped my practice so much.

  •  Not only does this relate to The 4 Agreements, but Perceptual Language provides a non-dualistic way to use language. The only other language we know that worked this way was the Pali Language, which was the language used in the earliest extant Buddhist scriptures. These languages turn many nouns into verbs.

  •  Hi Francesca. If you were to use Perceptual Language you could say, “I amaze myself. I really feel like I have the power to change my whole life.”

  •  Beautifully said Kate! This is the primary practice my wife, Hannah, and I use to transform conflict into connection. As you say, the way we say ourselves can transform the way we think and perceive.

  •  Hi Barbara. Many of us have troubled ourselves with our pasts, but we usually say, “My past troubles me,” as if my past is something outside of myself. I’m curious if you feel something different when you say, “I trouble myself with my past?” Because for me, if I’m the one troubling myself, then I have some hope that I can do something else.

  •   Using Perceptual Language this would be: “I astound myself!” 🙂

  •  Hey Sarah, great question. Thanks for asking. We encourage you to express your perception of another person’s behavior, particularly if you are in a close relationship with that person. For example, my wife, Hannah, may say something to me that she thinks is funny, but I hurt myself as a result of her comment. So, using Perceptual Language I would say to her, “I hurt myself when you say X.” Once she has this information about what I’m doing with her comment, she can choose to change her way of speaking to me. You see, I don’t have to tell the other person about them, I just tell them about my experience, and then they are less likely to get defensive.

  • Thank you for the wonderful article – I learned a lot. Also, thanks to everyone who mentioned The 4 Agreements, this book is now on my list of “to reads”

  •  Hi Lil. The reason we place so much emphasis on perception is because it gets us away from the rigid view of things as right or wrong. We delve deeply into perception, which we also talk about as the malleability of reality.

  • Tru Luv Flo

    This has so many neurophysiological errors, as well as logical errors, I must assume it is created by someone who truly doesn’t innerstand human neurophysiology, nor the various forms of murder, rape and/or theft that humans engage in. Another example of mutating usefull techniques into ridiculous sphistry.

  •  Hi Sheil— We start with awareness, just as you wrote, which is that “I am making myself miss my experience of my boyfriend who broke up with me.” This is what I am doing to myself, not what my ex-boyfriend is doing to me. So I am not a victim. This means I have more choices than if I perceive myself as a victim.

    One way to move through this experience is to allow yourself to fully have this experience. We so often resist feeling things we don’t want to feel, but from a Green Psychology perspective, we encourage people to associate with their feelings which usually leads them to a deeper level of inquiry.

  • This is fascinating!  The language we use is so powerful.  I love the first principle about no “out there.”  Like what I’ve said before–there is no “them.”  Great post.  

  • Georgemustloseweight

    I hope someone replies to this as compliments and criticisms help in understanding. Also i hope Tru Luv Flo outlines the errors s/he has spotted

  • Debra

    This was one of those infamous Oprah “Ah
    Ha”moments for me when reading your post.
    This isn’t something I could just breeze through
    but slowly read and think about what you were
    explaining.What a great post ,and I will be visiting
    your site.I have been on what I think is an attempt
    to connect with myself on a spiritual level,and
    question why I can not get out of a toxic relation
    ship.This gives me some GREAT positive
    perspectives on my thoughts and behavior…
    Thank You!!!The mind is fascinating!

  • Oh my! The explanation of perceptual language were a little confusing at times before I could finally grasp those examples and the overall concept. This is brilliant! — Good to understand how powerful it can be in practice with regards to positive changes as they relate to the outside world.

  • Laura

    I’ve been thinking about what it would be living without talking… And It seems something like this. The real me takes power of myself and controls everything which affects my own person. By this way, I realized how many things I could do shifting the “other’s people’s thoughts” into “my own thoughts” and that was fantastic. 
    Indeed, I hadn’t thought in “Principe 3#” which, in my opinion, is the most radical one. 
    We tend to expect what live is going to bring us… but… after having read that, I should take a new perspective about it. 

    Thank you so much for sharing. 

    Be happy.

  • Priscillahartl

    We create our own reality, and its a great thing you have done here, to create the language to match that statement! Wow!

  • Louis

    We are playing our role in a consensus “reality” as enternal spirits in temporary human form, and this kind of language and way of thinking helps keep things in perspective. Kudos!

  • Georgemustloseweight

    If possible could someone respond to the Tru Luv Flo post?


  • Yes, Debra I fascinate myself with my own mind, as well 🙂  Your comment about not being able to breeze through this is a poignant point. This is one of the benefits of adapting Perceptual Language into our lives. We have to slow ourselves down to figure out how to speak in this way – which makes us constantly more conscious of what we are saying, and thinking.

  •  Hi Tru Luv Flo. I’m not clear what you mean by “neuro-physiological errors.” I am a practitioner of Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB), which was developed by Dan Siegel, author of The Developing Mind. Much of our work is based on current academic research of neurobiology. According to this research, when we use things like Perceptual Language as a mindfulness practice, we are altering our neurology in constructive ways. We can use language and other mindfulness practices to reduce our reactivity (fight, flight, freeze response) and stimulate our prefrontal cortex so that our responses to the world are more mindful, balanced, and integrated. This is the purpose of Perceptual Language.

    As far as murder or rape, we recognize such cruelty does exist in the world. We acknowledge that there is a world “out there” and sometimes terrible things take place. We go out of our way to make clear that if something terrible happens to you, that doesn’t mean you are necessarily responsible. We don’t believe the adage that “we create our own reality.” We concern ourselves that such a belief can lead people who are victims to end up being blamed or blaming themselves for their suffering. We view this approach as lacking compassion. 

    We don’t invite people to take responsibility for everything that happens in their lives, because some things are beyond our control, but we do invite people to take responsibility for how they respond to whatever happens in their lives.

  • Hi Priscilla. Well—we’re not exactly saying that “we create our own reality.” What we’re saying is that there is a world we live in and things do happen…earthquakes, illness, accidents. We do not necessarily create these things. And people who suffer from illness or accidents did not necessarily create their illness or accident. There are times in life when we are victims of circumstances—particularly children.

    What we are inviting people to do with Perceptual Language is take responsibility for how they respond to whatever happens in their lives.

    This is an important distinction in our minds, not to be interpreted as “we create our own reality.”

  • B Nina75

    There are people that I desire to keep my distance from because the me in them interprets anger, criticism, and general dislike towards myself. So with this newfound tool, am i to encourage myself to be in their company?

  •  Hey B Nina—It’s okay to simply say, “I interpret anger, criticism, and
    general dislike towards me.” This is you talking about your experience
    of being around certain people. You don’t need to say, “the me in them.”

    And, no, this tool of Perceptual Language is not encouraging you to be
    around these people. It is simply encouraging you to take responsibility
    for your own feelings and experiences. So, instead of blaming them for
    making you angry, you take responsibility for your own experience. After
    you do so, you have a decision to make, which is whether or not you
    want to be around people with whom you make yourself feel criticized and

    I would suggest it’s probably better for you to take a step back from
    people like this. Don’t you want to be around people with whom you make
    yourself feel appreciated and liked? Perceptual Language makes it easier to make these kind of choices, because we are acting from a place of empowerment instead of a place of self-victimization.

  • Hi B Nina,

    Not necessarily. I would, instead, practice this tool and see who you
    then attract into your life. It may be one of them. It may not be. If
    you find they are still critical of you, why expose yourself to
    such criticism?

    In some cases it is worth checking in with people to see if our perceptions are accurate.

  • Luke Brennan

    Another practical tool to implement on a daily basis, thank you. I actively meditate as well as practicing meditation in the formal tradition, and by consciously thinking and being aware, managing our thoughts, sometimes by the use of language and how we internally interpret it, can only benefit our long term well-being.
    I’m always talking to myself and i find having the right thing to say is always very helpful.Thanks againLuke

  • Deborah

    Reminds me of this quote: “We don’t see things as they are. We see things as we are.”
    Thank-you for this. 😀 I am inspiring myself with your words.

  •  Deborah, I love that quote. Thanks for sharing yourself.

  • Cameron

    Hi Jake,

    I’ve heard it said that on a higher level, the ‘higher self’ as opposed to the mind, we do create, or co-create with others, so that we may experience something that gives us an opportunity to make a conscious choice from the mind as to how we respond to it.  So an event, be it an earthquake, abuse, an accident or an illness, is co-created and agreed to at some level by all involved.  It may just be the prompt that, as we accept our responsibility, can lead us to more fully understand and experience our enormous power to overcome any external event and create our own reality.  So a negative event gives rise to an opportunity for consciousness to expand, chose an empowered, positive response.  Therefore regardless of any perceived ‘negativity’, we can understand why it would be agreed to and created on a higher level.  Your thoughts?       

  • Cameron

    A great tool to help train the mind!  It reflects what naturally arises once one is in ‘presence’.

    My comment is that the ‘reflection’ of truth that this tool offers, will eventually be ‘shed’ or let go of, and truth embraced directly, rather than as a reflection in ‘mind’.

    What I mean is that these mental training tools, work in the realm of the mind, but ‘the mind cannot fix the mind’ – the mind still leaves you with the onnerous task of forever monitoring and controlling behaviour. 

    What these tools can do, is take you to a point where you are ready to simply release the conditioned mind, and all its tools, because you understand where true empowerment comes from – the ‘observer in presence’.  The training wheels can be taken off in other words. 

    Then the true self, as the ‘observer in presence’, creates the space where wisdom and insights come, simply by observing ‘who’ is responding to anything. Only meditation can lead you to this direct experience in my opinion… 

  • Hi Cameron,

    Did you want me to respond privately, or have you posted this comment on Tiny Buddha? I prefer to comment publicly.


  • Hello Cameron,
    Thanks for acknowledging how useful this can be to train the mind. I understand your point about direct experience, having practiced meditation for most of 30 years. But what naturally arises when we are present is also temporary. I don’t believe I will ever be able to shed my humanness, at least not while I am alive, so I imagine I will need these tools for as long as I am breathing. I have yet to meet another human who can live every moment in such perfection.
    I also, do not believe there is just one way for everyone.

  • Cameron

    So true Hannah.  I wouldn’t want to shed my humaness either, it provides such a rich opportunity to experience the come and go.  I suppose where I was going with my comment was I’ve only come to realise recently that I had been relying on certain practices/tools, maybe as some sort of permission slip, to be empowered or more myself.  I have a tendancy to go into discipline quite intensely in the ‘mind’, even identifiying myself with the ‘tool’ – which can get quite heavy.  So for me it has been liberating of late to use these wonderful tools in a more directive way rather than compulsive way – and it has lightened me up.  I think meditation has really helped me to create the space to see this more clearly, and more centred in myself as a direct observer of the temporary come and go.

  • Cameron

    Hi Jake,  I posted on Tiny Buddha, so please comment publicly…

  • Cameron

    I think I initially responded to the tool as ‘I fear the heaviness of of my mind in this tool’  ; )

  • Hi Cameron, I don’t share this idea that we co-create negative things as an opportunity for us to grow. I believe that we all have ample opportunities to grow and evolve without such tragedies as the tsunami in Japan last year or the holocaust. I am not comfortable suggesting that at some level—even the level of our higher selves—we choose or co-create these things.

    I feel as if the suggestion that “we choose everything that happens to us,” lacks compassion for those who suffer. I also discomfort myself with the idea that there is some collective “us” running the show. I disempower myself with this idea and if I accepted it I would often be second guessing myself in ways that I perceive as unhelpful.

    To go further, at the risk of freaking some people out, I don’t even
    make the distinction that we have a “higher self.” A higher self implies a lower self. I think this kind of distinction—dualistic—is not
    helpful. It only encourages me to worry about being judged when I am seen to act from my lower self. No, I think we have one self, made up of all of our actions, beliefs, behaviors, mistakes, scars, and beauty.

    I appreciate our conversation.

  • Cameron

    Thanks Jake, you’ve really helped me to explore this further.  I completely agree with you that we have ample opportunities to grow and evolve without tragedies.  However I remember a little saying that my father told me when I was growing up.  He said that truth will often tap you on the shoulder and say gently  ‘hey wake up’. If you ignore, truth will tap a little harder and if this continues, pain is experienced, and finally a point is reached where only a shock can have an effect on psyche to reexamine actions, beliefs, behaviours, mistakes etc.  I love this because it implies that truth will always come, eventually.   Might as well accept it now.

    I do believe we act as a collective in a certain way – we agree to reflect each other.  We may want to experience a certain reflection so we have an opportunity to make a choice about it – spiritually I think we do choose these things without being aware it it consciously sometimes.  Agreeing to this reflection, naturally events (human or even otherwise) will occur that will give rise to this opportunity, to choose truth, or otherwise.  But this is always the choice of the individual consciousness, and reflection of this choice will always be found in consciousness, in it’s infinite forms. I think it’s actually physics on a energetic level.  Therefore we are completely empowered.  

    Crucially all is our own reflection, not the truth of others – we are not experiencing others’ choices.

    But does this suggest that we can regard human pain and suffering as ‘oh that’s alright they’re finding truth’, or ‘they’ll work it out somehow’, and be detached or even cold about it?  I think this suggests an observer is choosing not to be present with this pain, that they are obviously aware of, and act in denial of this reality.  I think if you if you choose to act truthfully, then one is ‘present’ with the pain of others, then compassion is natural, and somehow through compassion, pain is integrated wholesomely, burden is lifted, and truth is left.

    Higher Self? – probably a concept that may help us accept wisdom in ourselves.  Maybe just a tool that leads us to truth…  

    I love myself with this conversation ; )  Thanks Jake!

  • subtextualFLOW

    Einsteinian Relativity applied to linguistics… meta-physics as it were…

  • Sasalool

    I just have one comment, when I read your post I had the feeling of being disconnected from the world and from others, it’s as if I am living alone.
    This way of thinking might work to stop blaming yourself and stop the negative thoughts you have about yourself, but it doesn’t let you share the good feelings, being in love, or admiring someone or a drawing or a nice movie or a nice conversation.

  • Lioness

    When I say “I trouble myself with my past” instead of the traditional, “my past troubles me”.. it literally makes me giggle. I feel I am already in control with this statement, eliminating the need to seek control over the “past”. It’s all me and I am strong and capable. Wonderful!

  • Kim

    I am so very happy I found this post! Thank you!

  • Ellie

    Wow! Thanks….I needed this!

  •  Hi Sesalool, the way I think about this is that we all share one thing in common, that is our experience of being alone. I have used this language for over ten years now and I feel more connected and more intimate with my wife, Hannah, and with my close friends then before I learned this language.

    Perceptual Language absolutely allows and encourages you to share good feelings, express your love, your appreciation, and share all sorts of conversations. The primary difference when I say things using Perceptual Language is that I am taking full ownership of what I say.

    And when I take full ownership of my love and admiration, which I can express to you, this only makes my expression richer and deeper.

  • Priscillahartl

    I have enjoyed the teachings of Seth for many years i. And you are creating your own reality everyday with every thought and action. You create it all. For many reasons. Yes even accidents and illness, and you have only to search within to discover the reasons. And I have changed after watching “what the bleep do we know” ,down the rabbit hole” ……..this movie can be a catalist to move humankind in the same direction that you are. To the awareness of ourselves as the creators of our world. There is a wonderful book called The Nature Of Personal Reality. It is another book that will change the way you think . All of the Seth material is written in fact to open the mind and lead you to many new ways of thinking. My favorite Seth quote…..YOU GET WHAT YOU CONENTRATE UPON,THERE IS NO OTHER MAIN RULE

  • Sanjagraph

    This is beautiful and true. One thing I disagree with is the statement that we can never experience the real other person. As impossible as it may seem, the true enlightment is experiencing ourselves or other person directly. This is what teaches Zen Buddhism and it is meditation to koans, such as: experience direcly other being…

  • Gediminas

    Is there a full-fledged book on perceptual language? Would love to integrate this in my life, but I live in a faraway country and English-language ebooks are the only decent option for personal development.

  • Hi Mike,

    This reminds me of a quote that I read in the Master Key System by Charles F. Hannel, “The world within is a reflection of the world without.” When I change myself from within, I will actually change the circumstances which are outside of me.

    Thank you for sharing these 2 principles.

  • Talya Price

    So would I.

  • Talya Price

    This was a wonderful. I know I need to be more aware of the words that I use, especially the words I use for myself, and the way I think because words are powerful. Thank you for this.

  • Dee Wise

    I was thinking the same thing as I read this post. I think the practical advice on how to actually change the language will really help with the application of the four agreements.

  • Susan Suehr

    Mike, What a refreshing post about what we say to ourselves. I have always thought that the meaning we give to circumstances has far more impact of our future. You have demonstrated that so beautifully here. Talk about empowering self talk that takes you to responsibility.

  • Maria

    Great post. Where do they teach this workshop?

  • rajan

    very true,thats the thing where the problem is .

  • Sarah C

    excellent excellent excellent.

  • Lisa

    The greatest breakthrough since Freud? Is that your opinion or is that the claim of social scientists who have researched perceptual understanding? Interesting use of subjevtivity in an article about subjective understanding….

  • Lisa

    This is just a way of forcing a person to be the accoubtable adult they should’ve been to begin with.

  • Laura D.

    The most fascinating tiny buddha article I’ve ever read. Bravo.