@Blaice
I wanted to thank you.

It’s very rare that I create an account for a forum because of something one user wrote, but this is one of those times.
Because of this specifically:
‘In the popular cases where one half of the relationship pushes a breakup and it completely blindsides the other half, know that the ‘dumper’ typically has been making up their mind over an extended period of time. Why would you even want to be with someone like this – someone incapable of including you in their concerns, queries, and anxieties about where the relationship was and where it was headed. These people were in a relationship with themselves and personally I would not want any closure from someone as conceited as this.’

I believe I am pretty much over my ex at this point (it’s been 1,5 years after a very serious 3-year relationship), I just seem to keep missing the feelings I’ve had while I was in the relationship, meaning being in love in general, having the highest highs of my life, sharing your life, completely trusting someone else, etc – everything you experience when you’re really, deeply in love.
But just as so many others, he broke it off without any explanation from one day to the next.
I never thought about marriage and kids in all my life, but when he came into my life I – we wanted it all.
So it’s been very hard that past year to come to terms with all of that. And it’s been a long road plastered with whys, reasonings and trying to make sense out of it.
I’d love to say that if I had heard those words sooner, it would have been easier, but I don’t really believe it 😉 . There’s a time for every thing. And for me personally that time was now, having to read your words.

So, thank you for putting things in perspective and making me see now as I am new and improved (hopefully ;)) that the path I unconsciously chose was apparently the right one.
Thank you Blaice.