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  • in reply to: Need help on how to proceed… #282731
    Butterfly
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    We are talking it out. He has apologized a few times. I am really trying to let it go. We love each other a lot and we don’t want this whole thing to be our ultimate end. I am honest with him about all my feelings, even the anger. I don’t want to just deny and shove it down deep to the point that it comes out subconsciously in uglier ways.

     

    Thank you for your insight. You have no idea how much I appreciate it.

    in reply to: Need help on how to proceed… #282713
    Butterfly
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    You are absolutely right in your understanding of the situation, Anita. I may have been angry even before the procedure, and it more than I can admit to myself. I love him so much and I have tried to understand at the heart level him not being there physically. Him leaving me on the phone made it worst and I felt like he couldn’t be there for me throughout the whole thing. AM I being unreasonable? What do I do? I don’t want to lose him and I don’t want to hang on to this anger.

    in reply to: Need help on how to proceed… #282525
    Butterfly
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    Thanks for the response Anita and sorry for the confusion.

    I am fully recovered and received the appropriate follow up. Thank you!

    I was alone at home that night, I couldn’t bring myself to tell anyone. My family especially, being in my 30s and having to terminate wasn’t exactly something I’d be excited to share with anyone, especially when all I get from my family is the pressure of marriage and children. I also just did not want a lot of opinion that could possibly cloud my own. But I had my boyfriend on the phone so he can make the phone call if something were to happen. He couldn’t be with me physically because it happened in such a short window of time. I was starting a new job the following week after the abortion and I needed it done immediately.

    My boyfriend is caring, sometimes I just feel he doesn’t get it when he is needed emotionally. I just don’t know how to get pass this. I don’t want to resent him or have this hanging over my head for the rest of our lives.

     

    Thank you again!

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