Thank you for your advice Holly it’s great to hear it from someone elses perspective.. The best way I can describe what’s going on is that my boyfriend hasn’t had traumatic relationships to go by. He’s just so used to being by himself that he finds it hard to express himself, he has said he is open to love and being in love but he’s never actually been in love. Which is terrifying for me as I’m typing this out I’m thinking “how can I be in a relationship where love may not happen?” it’s really soul destroying and it makes me feel sad, he would be completely fine if I walked away he’s very self-sufficient.. I don’t know how to talk about this without coming across as clingy or needy or putting pressure on him.. any ideas? I want to give it a try but it’s terrifying me and it’s making me anxious 🙁 your advice would be most appreciated!