Nice update. As I mentioned I am very much in the same boat. However, everyone has said leave her alone. I have done that at much personal pain. They also say, I need to be happy and comfortable with myself before I can even expect her to think about me again. Then if she doesn’t I am not screwed again so I understand the pain. I have been using the opportunity to work to put her out of my mind which isn’t very easy for me to do.
Good luck to you,
Fred

Believe it or not, the almost exact thing happen or is happening to me. I am 68 though and she is 64 and a widow. Nevertheless, she also said she loves me and I am a great guy but….. I don’t really know what the but is and neither does she. I so want her in my life but I know I can’t make it work as much as I hope. My family says she has issues that prevent her from commuting further-maybe she still loves her dead husband, I don’t know. It is now about 1 month since she departed in a therapists office where she made this decision for the most part. I know from reading everything that the worst thing I can do is call or write as much as I want to. Everyone tells me not to as well, so I haven’t but the pain just stays with me all the time.
So I can sympathize or empathize with you 100%. Let’s keep in touch and keep each other posted.
Fred