Thank you so much for your reply 🙂

I will come back and elaborate further

Just to give you an update : my friend has texted me this morning asking how I was !

And also, I would like to add a nuance here : even though everything I wrote Is true and my bond with this friend has greatly suffered this past year, a few times (2 to 3, I think), I went to her for advice and she did try to help me.

One time, it was about my sister who was sexually assaulted (yes, that’s awful) and I know she’s more knowledgeable in this department, so I asked her about the procedure and she replied fast.

2 other times, I was confiding in her by texts in February and she replied to some of my texts (not all) 2 to 3 weeks after.

So even though she’s been way less supportive, at some point, she did reply to my texts.

Sorry, I have to travel by bus but I will get back to you as soon as I can and I will give you a proper answer 🙂

Thanks again to both of you !!

That’s painful to read, but I appreciate your honesty Anita.

So thank you very much

Is there a specific part of my post that makes you think we are no longer “friends” but more acquaintances ?

Also, I don’t really know if I should talk to her about this or just let it go ?

Sometimes, I think it’s a bad idea but other times, I feel like I would at least like to clear the air just in case there has been a misunderstanding ?

Maybe I could to share my feelings with her, in a non accusatory way, and to give her the benefit of the doubt and let her space to express hers ?

I want to write her something like this : (English is not my first language, so I apologize for my grammar)

“Hey, I wouldn’t be being true to myself and how I’ve been feeling if I didn’t mention something to you. I feel like things changed between us and I would like to talk about it because I value our friendship.

I know you have a boyfriend and I am very happy for you !

Not to sound insecure, but I noticed you pulled back this year.

As a result, I also started to focus on other friendships. I notice you don’t necessarily keep me informed on what is going on into your life, so I started to do the same.

And also, you seem to compartmentalize things since I have never met your boyfriend nor his friends, and I understand, it is your prerogative !

But I would like to know what you expect from me and this friendship ? I am a bit lost. ”

I certainly don’t want her to feel “coerced” or “forced” to meet my needs, so I am not sure if it’s a good idea to write her this …