just wanted to say that I completely understand where your coming from. My mother is one of those people and still living with her can be hard – especially now I have come to realise that my possible over empathetic nature to her problems actually may have made me ‘sucked in to her neurosis’ as I have had my own mental health worries of depression and anxiety which I now see that I have difficulty expressing in the fear that I might be like her and do the same to other people! Ah its a complex mind we have