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YanaParticipantI will never allow my past and childhood to define me and destroy my relationships with my family. ❤️ We are here and now. 🙂
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YanaParticipantI would like to share a similar experience… Yesterday we went to visit my mom in a rehabilitation hospital. She had hip surgery. And we walked through the park and tried to identify different flowers and bushes, listened to the birds… and it was really nice. When she is in this mood thanks to nature… cheerful, relaxed, reflective… she is more open to talking about tough topics… and she gets genuine. And this helps me understand that she loves us all very much… but it used to be just too hard to have so much on her shoulders when we were kids. ❤️
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YanaParticipantHello Alessa,
I really like how you enjoy parenthood and see your role as a mom as a way to learn and grow. ❤️ I wish all parents could do that. Some parents have a child and feel like all their responsibilities end there. Other parents feel like they own the child and project their dreams onto them. Sometimes it seems to me as if no one understands what it really means to be a parent… it’s only written about in magazines and books, but who actually understands it in practical life?
And that is the problem with knowledge. It is not enough to know… it must be put in practice. If you know what I mean. It applies to all parts of our lives – being a partner, a parent, mental health, spirituality, work, …
I like that we can practice the positive self-talk with animals, too. 🐈
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YanaParticipantThis is meant with complete sincerity and peace of mind. 🪷 🙂 I am absolutely calm and peaceful.
I think honesty is very needed here. Honesty is more important than polite phrases or analyses. We cannot move on and heal without honesty. ❤️
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YanaParticipantNo, Anita, I am not interested in analyses. If you are not interested in real people and genuine conversation, we should move on independently. I think that you didn’t understand anything from what I wrote a few weeks ago.
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April 26, 2025 at 10:20 pm in reply to: The Betrayal We Buried: Healing Through Truth & Connection #445151YanaParticipantIt is a sad feeling in me that you really don’t want to heal. You resist to step out of your comfort zone – overthinking, analyzing – and feel real emotions, be with them without running away by never ending circle of intellectualizing and reach real peace. I feel that you run away here on tinybuddha from the real problems and feelings, trying to get sure that everyone feels like that… and that’s why your analysis isn’t very often objective because you tend to project yourself in it. It is hard to read how much you actually don’t want a change…
But we must let people go their own path…
Maybe one day… one lifetime…
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April 25, 2025 at 9:43 pm in reply to: The Betrayal We Buried: Healing Through Truth & Connection #445140YanaParticipantHello Anita,
I have rich experience with embracing pain and accepting negative emotions. EFT is all about it! You spent so much time and energy with deep raw painful emotions when you heal with EFT. And some emotions took me years to accept and finally let go.😊 🕊 And Buddhism too. It is actually the core of Zen Buddhism (Hanh) to stay with your strong emotions peacefully, embracing them and tell them: “Hello, I am here with you. I will take care of you.” ❤ The work with inner child (it was mentioned in the article) is very often emphasized by Hanh, too. I’ve done a lot of progress with mindfulness and meditation and when I look at little Jana in my head, I see her smiling… small, vulnerable, but smiling… no more shame for being vulnerable… slowly accepting vulnerability as my strength… and she sits on the grass with joy and happy face. I saw myself sitting depressed trying to hide, face down a few weeks ago…
I think it is possible to enjoy negative emotions when we accept them but we don’t identify with them… Buddhism helped me a lot with this.
I’m on my phone. I can write more later.
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YanaParticipantThank you, Anita.
I was thinking about what happened here a few weeks ago. When I suddenly became afraid of you. And I realized that I wasn’t so much afraid of you, but rather of some idea I had of you… a very false idea…
I think this affects all of us to some extent… some more, some less… we are afraid of our own ideas in our heads… not really of real people… or real situations.
I just wanted to let you know that you don’t need to limit yourself or think too much about how you would approach me because now I know a little more about myself again… and I don’t usually repeat mistakes when I am aware of them.
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YanaParticipantI wish I could share more pictures with you because the nature around me is so beautiful. I created an account on tumblr and I might try to send a link here, so you can see something from my little world. But I am not sure if the link will be approved. I’ll try later.
It is finally raining. It is good because everything was so thirsty. And the birds are singing. ❤️ It’s music for my heart. I love spring.
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April 25, 2025 at 4:13 am in reply to: The Betrayal We Buried: Healing Through Truth & Connection #445118YanaParticipantBTW tulips 🌷 🌷 🌷 are blooming here everywhere. 🙂
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April 25, 2025 at 4:11 am in reply to: The Betrayal We Buried: Healing Through Truth & Connection #445117YanaParticipantHello Anita,
you are not lonely. I was thinking about you. 🌷
What could help you to finally feel to be whole?
What helped me personally was love… but not from my family… but from a complete stranger who later became my partner… and he creates my own little family full of genuine love and understanding. Something I couldn’t get in my original family as a child… but in the end I have love and protection…. with a complete stranger… maybe I finally allowed myself to be loved. (?) What about you?
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YanaParticipantHello Roberta,
thank you very much for your beautiful post. ❤️ There’s something about nature that makes us joyful, isn’t there?
I wish you had more time for the forum, but I know that you must take care of your dad and enjoy precious time together. I miss your kind and unbiased perspective here.
Sending lots of 🪷 ☀️
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YanaParticipantYour sister is not responsible for your feelings… no one actually is… Don’t get stuck in this… You might understand it one day.
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YanaParticipantThank you, Anita. I’ll come back later again. Meanwhile, Happy Easter! 🐣 🌼
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YanaParticipantI sometimes wish I had a female friend with whom I could just pick some herbs, mushrooms, bake and cook… just be and enjoy little things in our lives. I don’t have any friends today. I mean I don’t mind it. I am introverted and I like being alone, just with my pets… I don’t really feel lonely. But sometimes I wonder what it feels like to have a loyal female friend. 🙂
I am trying to be the best friend for myself. I am trying this as a form of the practice of self-compassion…
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