Thank you both…I have avoided all contact since he failed to appear at a family lunch 2 days ago but have just had a text from him that sounds as if he thinks the past month of lying and drinking and letting people down hasn’t happened. I don’t know what to do. I’m scared of talking to him and fitting right back into my ‘role’ in this co-dependant dance…but I am on very wobbly ground still and don’t feel strong enough to tell him to leave me alone. He says he will call later..I have told him I am ill and can’t talk. This seems pathetic but the best I can do right now to keep myself safe. I know I will need to be clear and honest but its all very raw, I have only in the last 24 hours started being honest with myself. Thank you for making me feel less alone with it…I appreciate it x