Hey Anita,

I would say that the feeling of guilt is definitley present. The scenario I described – breaking up on a gut feeling. I feel like I ran away from my ex because I was feeling so anxious, and I definitley left her in a bad place. I did not communicate my feelings well, and for her, she had the rug pulled out from under her. I feel guilty about that, and wish I could’ve been more in touch with how I felt, and that I felt more confident in communicating my feelings so as to work out these emotions. It would not have guaranteed anything would’ve ended differently, but I feel it would’ve been a more mature ending.

I’d also say that yes I am feeling nostalgic too. It feels impossible not to compare how my life is now to how it was when were at our best. I miss all of the things we had together, from the big future we both had envisioned, to the little love languages and mannerisms that only we shared. I never viewed this feeling through the lens of being nostalgic before, but I’d say that’s what it is. I miss our best times together.

In your opinion, what are right reasons to rekindle things?

I don’t know whether or not I’d feel resentment if I didn’t explore new experiences. It’s difficult to predict. It’s something I used to think about when we were together.

Slowing down is probably an excellent idea. I’ve placed a sense of urgency on myself to figure things out. I feel like as time goes by, we seperate further and further, and I don’t want to make a decision to late.