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  • August 10, 2018 at 4:43 pm in reply to: Insecurity about friends?? (Some reading, apologies) #221087
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    Anita, thank you so much. Your responses, though they’re few, have helped me out a lot.

    Your suggestion of cutting down my schedule/organizing it has been on my to-do list for a while now, not for my anxiety, just for decluttering purposes. (: Though, for the purpose that’d it’d also be serving now, it sounds like it’d be very helpful.

    My soccer season isn’t year round, & I’ve noticed that I feel better, mentally, while in season. My clubs & school are kinda taxing because of my classes & my clubs involving lots of activities (Beta, StuCo), soccer takes up a lot of time but isn’t that draining mentally I don’t think, & my “job” is babysitting on weekends/free days. I sorta like being busy to a point, & I really like learning. There are some things I could take away & add to make it more beneficial & less stressful, so thanks for the suggestoon & extra motivation (:

    Don’t know what you’re going to be away for a little bit for, but I hope you enjoy your time away (: again, thanks for your input & helpful advice, it’s much appreciated.

     

    August 10, 2018 at 10:34 am in reply to: Insecurity about friends?? (Some reading, apologies) #221045
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    Anita,

    Thank you for the suggestion, & as for what I’ve tried to manage my anxiety, not a whole lot as I’ve never known how to go about it & where to start. One thing I’ve done semi-frequently is talking about these issues to people I trust, i.e. my stepmom & my friends themselves.

    I’ve talked about my insecurities & everything with my stepmom because she’s dealt with really difficult mental issues in the past, like OCD, lots of anxiety, & being in emotionally tolling & damaging relationships/marriages. These things for her have gotten better, she says, since she married my dad & her best friend for years now, & she says this is because of how well they communicate, how he’s as supportive & helpful as he can be, etc. Pretty much the jist of what she’s given me is that I’m just an anxious person, & that she deals with it too.

    As for talking with my friends, they’ve told me that what I’m scared of happening isn’t in their plans & they’re going to be supportive, reassuring, & helping in other ways that they know how.

    I’ve also lightly tried journaling, but the habit doesn’t stick with me very easily just because I’m very forgetful & it’s kind of difficult to fit things like that into my schedule consisting of school, soccer, clubs, my job, household/family duties, etc etc etc. The small length of time that I was trying to write daily, though, seemed to help me organize my thoughts like that but I haven’t seen what happens in the long term.

    Like I said, I haven’t dived into this whole issue with myself a whole lot mainly because I’m clueless as to what to do & how to go about it. Your comments have been really helpful, though, so thank you.

     

    August 10, 2018 at 9:02 am in reply to: Insecurity about friends?? (Some reading, apologies) #221009
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    Anita, thank you, your answer was very helpful. Everything you said made sense & applied to what I wrote. Thank you for taking the time to read & for giving your insight. Continuing to communicate with you sounds like it’d be helpful as well, so thank you for the offer.

    I really like your explanation of me being not only my present self as a teen, but sort of like a matryoshka doll with a younger, past self inside, that being the place where these thoughts are coming from. I’m still not so sure how to manage this anxiety about my friends, school, life in general, etc. But you taking the time to give me some helpful information is greatly appreciated & has definitely helped me learn more about all this than I did before. (:

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