Hi there,
I am so sorry you have been hurt in this way. There is no greater pain then feeling uncomfortable in your own body.

Expressing yourself to him was a big step – and absolutely necessary in your healing. And talking to him more might help — but first, it is SO important to continue to process the experience alone. For me journaling is a helpful tool, but when you described this pain in your chest — I can relate to that. The pain is living now in your body… so its important to FEEL it there. When you feel the pain in your body… that is a sign of something not being processed.

Use your body to express your emotions. Movement is SO HEALING & so transformative. Find a song, play it loud.. and dance – all by yourself. Or sit with the emotion until you feel it strongly in your chest & then yell/ scream/ cry.

Then, after you have expressed it & it feels like it has subsided a bit… use your awareness to cultivate POSITIVE feelings… the things you want to feel.

I hope this helps, and I would love to hear how it goes for you

Maria

• This reply was modified 8 years, 7 months ago by Maria Borghoff.