Thanks for the response.

I must admit, the promising on her grandfathers life that nothing was going on is a memory that still haunts me. That said, she genuinely is a wonderful person. She spends all of her time trying to think of nice things to do for her friends and family, she is entirely selfless. What she did was terrible and a betrayal of my trust. That said, I know for sure that if either
a) she could conceive naturally
b) I was there for her when she needed me,

This would not have happened. She has never communicated very well and basically just lived with the thought of having PCOS every day. The way she describes it is very similar to how I think about her cheating on me. I.e she would wake up knowing that she has PCOS and cant have kids and it would stay with her all throughout the day. Shes not good at talking to friends.
Its a round about way of getting to a conclusion but yes I do think that I can trust her now.

I know that she regrets what she has done. She says she hates herself every day (I think she needs a bit of counseling) and just thinking about it makes her feel physically sick.

In response to your second question, she is wonderful. Its difficult to narrow down the number of things that I love about her and looking back I really regret that I neglected her so badly. I am absolutely dead set on staying with her so long as I can actually get past this. If I cannot then I will divorce as there isnt any point in both of us being miserable.

Thank you for your questions by the way as I hadn’t ever previously thought about them.