Dear Alex,

It sounds like there are many “shoulds” going through your mind: my kids “should” be happier, I “should” be more easily employable, I “should” be more patient with my kids…Perhaps it would be helpful for you to try and go into a mindset of putting less pressure on yourself; putting too much pressure/expectations on oneself takes a toll on the mind and body. Try telling yourself that you are doing the best you can in your given situation and it’s o.k. for the outcome to be not so perfect. I myself have two children and trust me we all lose patience at times. From what you wrote I think your kids also receive alot of love and attention from you, so focus on all the positive you are giving them and try not to add more pressure on yourself by feeling guilty for moments when you are less patient.

I definately agree with everyone who answered advising you to take moments to breathe. Meditation and breathing can really help with calming the mind and feeling less anxious. Also, I believe when we feel depleted of our energy, alot of it has to do with how we approach situations, with what attitude. If you feel resistance or resentment for exemple, in the long run those feelings are very draining. By choosing to change your perception of a given situation, you can nourish more positive feelings and regain more energy.

You have put yourself aside alot for your kids and husband. Take time for yourself, be kind to yourself and be confident that things will get better.

Take care!