Hi Anita. Thank you for your responses. I am accually not sure where i picked up the idea that it would be great to get married to someone who would take care of finances while i go to school and or have a baby… I didnt even date for years in my 20s for fear of getting pregnant and stuck with a zero and i didnt want to go back to school until recently bc i had gone to a trade school and i liked my job even though i had been struggling to make money. I didnt realize that i was never going to have the time and money to have a life beyond it until i was too poor to pay rent and went back to stripping. I had quit stripping and got my trade business flowing with the economy goin up again and also went to bartneding school and had got a full time job around the time i was getting serious with my boyfriend and he asked me to move in with him and i knew he didnt make much money and i would be paying part of the rent. After i moved in, i quit my job and then closed my business a few months later all with his advice and ran out of savings a few months later. I began learning a new trade at home while going to school online and everytime i would mention gettin a job he said no and when i did get another job to save our behinds on the rent, he told me to quit after i racked up my first paycheck so i could concentrate on my new trade and school but we ran out of money and i had to quit school and havent had money to invest into my new trade. Anyway i am now very glad that i did not have a baby under those circumstances and i know i dont ever want to have to rely on my partner for money again and i dont want to be used either. I guess i should broaden my thinking…