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  • in reply to: Struggling #426104
    Julia
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    New me has learned to set boundaries , advocate for my needs and communicate them.  I also know myself better so I know what fulfills me and what doesn’t.  Finally I have learned not to flee at the first sign of trouble in any kind of relationship, which stemmed from a fear of abandonment.

    I do admit that initially I went from not having boundaries to having too many, which shut a lot of people out.  Now I feel like I have corrected that and have found a happy middle ground.

    in reply to: Starting over and need some advice #317501
    Julia
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    To answer your questions:

    1.  It was mainly friendships that were the problem.  I cut them out because they didn’t treat me very well.  The friendships were either one-sided or they would treat me poorly in other ways such as belittling me.  In general my family relationships are fine with the exception of one or two.

    2.  My main goal is to meet people who treat me better.  I have been thinking a lot about what I want and deserve in my relationships and that is key.  Like I said I used to have very low self confidence and I think that it drove me to make bad decisions in relationships.  I have been working a lot on self love and I think that I am in a better position to give and receive love than I have in the past.

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