Hi there Brooke. I just want to say that i have the same problem. Living with my boyfriend for 2 years now and his helpless brother. When we gave up my place and decided that we will live in his place, his brother moved in at the same time to stay for 2-3 months untill he found his own place, its been two years and it has been really hard.  The other problem is that his brother is an alcoholic and we do not drink at all. He has really bad behavior at times when he gets drunk and all gets forgiven in the mornings when he acts really sorry for himself. The problem is that his brother is family and i am not, this is very tricky as it will never change. I love my boyfriend and would like him to take action in some way or another, but he feels sorry for his brother. The brother is very  stubborn and you cannot tell him anything, not even to get his own place. The other thing is that he can afford to go on his own, but choose to encroach on my boyfriend and never give us space. He has no respect for me and listens to everything we speak and wants to know everything we do, what, how, when, why. I have thought of leaving before but feel like that is highly unfair as we want to be together. Does anyone  know how better i can deal with the situation? The space is quite small, so it makes it really difficult to get away from each other. I work from home and like a peaceful environment, which isnt being respected. I also wish i can help his brother, but after many attempts, i have realized that it didn’t work and he still despises me. I now do not even love my own home anymore and feel like my personal space is being threatened the whole time. How can i lovingly move forward? anyone please