That’s really a difficult situation.
I yell at my cat too. Sometimes LOL.

Hi Anita,
How are you doing ?
I just got busy with life.
Dealing with my kiddo and office is getting too much. My husband has been travelling on and off for work.
Life has been busy and I dont even have the energy to talk to people outside of my work.
I feel so bad, i know I used to talk once in a while.

Thats nice.
I am more of a tech person so I like chatgpt. LOL I use chatgpt to understand my cats behavior. The one we got is so cute. We have seen some other cats who hiss or bite if they dont like to be pet. Our butterscotch is so gentle.
I also went to backstreet concert last December. It was awesome and first concert ever. I never really went to concerts when i was growing up. We went to Disney during Christmas holidays. The Christmas break was good.
How was your holidays ?

I just dont feel like doing anything the past few months.
I dont feel like talking to people.
I dont feel like coming to office.
I dont feel like cooking.
I am so irritable.
I stopped making new friends after the friendship breakup I had with my neighbor in 2024. I just dont feel like putting in the effort when you know people will change when they meet new people. Thier priorities change. May be I expect too much. I dont know. I stopped inviting people since last year. I even stopped taking my kiddo out for any events. I stopped planning. I just feel like staying home in my own space and it feels safe.
Its getting hard to deal with people when they cross the boundaries. I feel anxious or emotionally reactive when dont people dont listen to me or dont care about my feeling or respect my boundaries. Since I stopped putting in the efforts others have stopped too.
Later on, I keep obsessing about how they treated me.
Dealing with my kiddo is getting harder actually. She is very disrespectful and irritable all the time. I know I shouldnt take it personally but it makes me so angry when she talks to me like that. I am not able regulate my anger and sometimes I yell at her. Then I feel guilty about it like she would blame in future if she endures any trauma. I have been telling you this since 2024. Its really getting hard for me to accept her mistakes or her imperfections or when she treats me badly.
Everything is a power struggle with her. Getting he homework done, cleaning up her toys room, eating her dinner/lunch.

Hey Anita,
I was thinking about you today.
Happy new year!!
I am doing ok. How are you doing ?

Awe thats so sweet. Thank you!
Our Indian community is organizing an event which is all about celebrating indian culture which includes dance performances as well.
My little one did one performance last time and it went well.
My neighbor approached me this that her kiddo is performing with some other kids. The group has one boy and three girls including my kiddo now. They are 7 year old’s.
I come from the southern part of India, so the cinema in that region is called Tollywood. Most of the Tollywood songs are vulgar and sexist. Some movies have these songs called “ITEM SONGS” which objectify woman and adds bit of the hero’s sexual fantasies. I never let my kid watch these songs at al.
So my neighbor picked one of the item songs with these which I am not ok with. After that, I clearly told her I am not ok with my kid dancing to this song as its not age appropriate. I was so scared to set the boundary but I did it very politely. She was like we are not going to show them the real video song and she sent me dance tutorial of this song where one of the girls pretended to be a hero and the rest of the girls are dancers who he is trying to flirt with dancing one by one with them. So she is planning to make the boy hero and the rest of the girls are his dancers. They are all seven year old’s and it sounds so gross to me.
She added me to the group chat which includes other moms too.
The other mom picked a item song too. I am like how are these people even ok with it. This just made me so anxious. I dont want my kid to feel left out. My neighbors kid already told that they are performing together. If I say No to my kiddo she is going to feel bad and throw a tantrum and will say mean things to me.I feel like may be I am being too hard on her blah blah.
Today I suggested some kid appropriate songs on the group and my neighbor has not responded thats. The thought of disappointing her is making me anxious. Are nt my feeling valid ?

Thank you Anita!

I dont think i am comfortable doing it here.