Awe thats so sweet. Thank you!
Our Indian community is organizing an event which is all about celebrating indian culture which includes dance performances as well.
My little one did one performance last time and it went well.
My neighbor approached me this that her kiddo is performing with some other kids. The group has one boy and three girls including my kiddo now. They are 7 year old’s.
I come from the southern part of India, so the cinema in that region is called Tollywood. Most of the Tollywood songs are vulgar and sexist. Some movies have these songs called “ITEM SONGS” which objectify woman and adds bit of the hero’s sexual fantasies. I never let my kid watch these songs at al.
So my neighbor picked one of the item songs with these which I am not ok with. After that, I clearly told her I am not ok with my kid dancing to this song as its not age appropriate. I was so scared to set the boundary but I did it very politely. She was like we are not going to show them the real video song and she sent me dance tutorial of this song where one of the girls pretended to be a hero and the rest of the girls are dancers who he is trying to flirt with dancing one by one with them. So she is planning to make the boy hero and the rest of the girls are his dancers. They are all seven year old’s and it sounds so gross to me.
She added me to the group chat which includes other moms too.
The other mom picked a item song too. I am like how are these people even ok with it. This just made me so anxious. I dont want my kid to feel left out. My neighbors kid already told that they are performing together. If I say No to my kiddo she is going to feel bad and throw a tantrum and will say mean things to me.I feel like may be I am being too hard on her blah blah.
Today I suggested some kid appropriate songs on the group and my neighbor has not responded thats. The thought of disappointing her is making me anxious. Are nt my feeling valid ?

Thank you Anita!

I dont think i am comfortable doing it here.

My mil is not with me right now.I dont want to confront her now.
I want to confront her when the situation comes.
Right now i want to stop obsessing about how she should treat me and how should i confront her.I dont want to do it in my head.

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So sorry to hear that.
I was doing ok when I spoke to you last week.

My anxiety triggered again during the weekend. I cannot stop obsessing about how my MIL expects me to treat my co sister. I feel like running away from people. I cannot even set a emotional boundary when it comes to myself. I ruminated the same way when my neighbor(my best friend) started getting busy with other people and started ignoring me last year at the same time.

Another thing happening at my work. A new co worker has joined our team. He is a recent graduate and more smarter, assertive than me.My manger assigned a same task to both of us. Initially it was assigned to me and then my manager asked the new co worker to help me with the task. I am pretty new to learning AI stuff. I was figuring out how to do the task he would come up with an answer and he would do the task before me. I wanna learn on my own pace and figure out how to do it. I finished the task by taking in my own way with some feedback from him. I completed the task with in the time frame.

I went to india on a vacation he took over my task and changed it according to his way. I know he was trying to help me. The fact that I didnt like it he changed it and replaced some the stuff. I felt like my whole efforts were wasted. There are two ways of doing it and he thought his is better than mine.

My manger has assigned another task to me last week and he now asked my co worker to help me. I dont want my efforts to get wasted. I feel like the new co worker is overstepping when it comes to my work. Should I talk to manager about this ?

My manager tells me all the time that I am so quite and have to rise my voice lol. Its been three years i didnt even get promoted yet. I just screwed up a meeting last week because of my social anxiety.