Yes, closing the door after making myself clear is the only way to go because she doesn’t understand what I’m trying to say and just keeps repeating the same thing. I just want to practice being assertive now in the way you mentioned, and not let my temper get the better of me again.

Regarding Jerry, she said her parents will be afraid of what other people will think of them and disconnect her Internet connection for long if they find out about me. By “terrible” consequences, I didn’t mean violence and all in case it came across like that; they’re very good people, not like that. But during our recent interaction, she didn’t mention them, rather gave her own views about why she can’t accept these feelings of mine.