Dear Samantha:

You did what we all do; what I did: see the part of what is in front of us, the part of reality that we need to see, ignoring, denying, minimizing what we don’t want to see, what doesn’t feel good to see. Children do it a lot in unfavorable childhood situations so to feel safe, so to not be aware of the dangers, of the reality of being stuck…

It takes I think enough feeling of safety inside to see more and more of the reality of our lives, so we don’t feel that we will be overwhelmed if we did see what is in front of us (often, what has been in front of us for years and even decades).

I don’t have enough information to know if he deceived you or not. If this is important to you, you are welcome to share with me any information I currently don’t have, state it as objectively as you can (without personal commentaries, as in just the facts) and elaborate on each incident or something he said so to include any other saying or fact relevant to it. I will be glad to reply.

As far as; “At what point is there too much damage between two people?”- I like this question very much. I would like to go into it. later, if you’d like.

anita