Dear Samantha:

Yes, that word: you felt embarrassed, a bit ashamed that you slept in your mother’s room until you were 11. As if there was something faulty in you for reacting with fear to your father’s rage.

Is your heart okay now???

You wrote that calmness is confusing to you. I think I understand. My mother raged at me big time, scared me so very much. Once I was away from her, her raging kept going on and on… and on in my brain. It is only recently that that fear is relocating from moving the Happening-Now location in my brain to the Happened-then location.

Your question: “At what point is there too much damage between two people?” When someone hurts you so much that your health, physical, mental suffers (your father and grandfather are two such people).

It seems like neither one of us knows what happened with this guy. I suppose you were afraid to look beyond the… safe trees so to see the forest.

What now?

anita