This helped me a lot:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/getting-back-out-there/201506/when-the-person-you-love-doesnt-love-you
Additionally, when I lost the person I loved, I gave up work/school/and hid from family. Still went to gym, but it was one of the toughest, hardest parts of my life. Poor, no one, suffering, praying, crying dawn to dusk and miserable.
“Real love” did not fix all of those things, I had to fix myself, and learned just how happy I could be solo. But when the right person came into my life, it makes a world of difference. To have someone who communicates well, does their half of the work reliably, involves you in big choices, and tries to make a real home with you. It is worth sticking it all out for, to get to that point. And all of the prayer you do now, ALL of it, will be rewarded when you climb back up and realize what you really want to do. The world is more vivid and brighter than you ever could have imagined it to be, despite the problems residing. Perspectives change. I could not be here now, but God will always pull you through, and there is something he truly has in mind for you.
The person who came back to me, was the person who ghosted me in the first place, but they came to realization of what THEY wanted. We never could have worked without that change in BOTH of us. They grew as a person, by their own free will, and my patience. There was nothing I could do to make them or ask them, and neither can you for him as much as you wish he’d be different. God will bring the right one to you, if you leave the door open. It might be someone from before, maybe someone new, but that person needs to go through suffering too, to be prepared as the person who is tested and true and ready for your love.
Though I run this site, it is not mine. It's ours. It's not about me. It's about us. Your stories and your wisdom are just as meaningful as mine. 