Jeff,

Leave it up to her to decide what to tell her family. It’s her shame and her disrespect that got you guys into this situation. Not yours. This is not your problem, this is hers. When it ces to the divorce, this is between you and her. This has nothing to do with each others families. It would be good if you both didn’t yell anyone what had happened. Can you imganine the drama and the extra stress? Plus, others opinions will confuse you.

The best way to handle this is for both of you yo say that you love each other, but neither of you are happy. You’re both confused about what you want and need time for your own life. When you say something like that, people don’t question your reasoning.

I think it is amazing what you decided to do. You will find someone who is deserving of you. I’m like you, hate and revenge are not a part of my vocabulary. I choose not to indulge or become a part of the negativity in the world. I feel that it is great that you do the same 🙂