Dear jedadja:

Please always focus on your son as your first priority. He is the truly innocent party to the turmoils in the relationship between you and the boy’s father.

No matter how you feel, as devastated as you feel, your child deserves a calm, safe home for his mental well being. Please provide him such a home. It is not important if he gets any material luxuries. It is most important that he feels safe and loved, attended to with empathy and caring.

As to your boyfriend, he told you he wants to end the relationship, then respect it and see your relationship as girlfriend/ boyfriend as a thing that just ended and work on a positive co parents relationship with him in the future.

As devastated as you are, you have to be strong because you are a mother. And because to get better, strength is necessary. You feel badly and you will be feeling badly, and you can endure those bad feelings, suffer them and continue to survive and function well as a mother.

You can start making more sense of your life in all areas. Let there be space in this bf/gf relationship, let it end and hopefully, soon enough your thinking will be more clear and you will be calmer.

Share here anything you’d like during this time…

anita