I understand that Anita, and I agree. From my elementary understanding of evolutionary psychology, anger evolved within us as a defense mechanism against threats, mostly coming from individuals we know. I know it’s a natural human emotion we cannot just eliminate. I do however, feel we can control it sufficiently. I read about instances in the life of the Buddha and other great masters where they were badly abused by ill-mannered people, sometimes by their own close ones, but they chose not to “accept” those hurtful words and feel miserable, and instead just moved on with a smile. I may not even come close to having in me their virtues, but I do feel that it’s our choice to understand what message the anger is giving and then, instead of succumbing to it and becoming violent, having enough self-control to forgive and move away until the anger subsides. If I had been able to do that, none of this would’ve happened. But I’m not able to develop that self-control and patience. I always succumb to the anger after a brief spell of self-control.