My father is super manipulative, we had no evidence of physical violence or abuse up until I was 11, when he was kicked out of the house. That’s when she finally had proof and it also coincided with my age as well. It took him, after me being extremely vocal about my opinions, until I was 20 to sort of comprehend that my mother wasn’t Alienating me from him. He doesn’t seem to understand that throwing things, walking out of the house and leaving for 4 days because he couldn’t find salt quick enough in the kitchen, or him hitting my mom was a good enough reason for me to not want to be around him. He has issues.

Yes, that’s probably my question about the ex. Haha I guess I think I am over reactive or too sensitive to issues because of the past and i almost feel that my perception is not valid, because of the conflict of interest, the reality of my upbringing, so to speak. Either that or I have a remarkably high threshold to crap. I don’t know, It comes down to is that I know it’s wrong, even with the good stuff, but I stay…I don’t know if that comes from weakness or strength.