Dear sona:

Your therapist should have done more than just nod. If he wasn’t prepared the first time you brought up the attachment to him, he then had an opportunity to prepare for the next session and bring it up then. It was his responsibility to attend to this very important matter. You have the right, as you must know, to terminate therapy at any time. If you want to bring it one more time and tell him you are thinking about terminating the therapy because you feel alone with this, you can do that.

He has failed you, is my understanding.

About the hollow feeling, it is the feeling you had when you were a child, scared and alone, in terrible need to be helped. It was overwhelmingly scary. It is a feeling-memory recorded in your brain, and it gets triggered when you separate from someone you feel attachment to. Then it is forgotten when you get used to the separation.

I know this feeling very well, not the exact same thing, of course, but I do know. It is not like this anymore for me, but it was terrible for many, many years. I hope it will not be as long for you as it has been for me.

anita