Dear Ravi:

I understand that the pain returns periodically. I understand that your love for her, the longing for her is intense and has been deep and intense for a long time. I think of your love for her as part of who you are. An undeniable part of you. I also think there is nothing you can do about it, so thinking and thinking is obsessing simply because there is nothing to do.

So studying is what you believe is the right thing for you to do. I don’t think you should study so to “serve your parents” but to make an independent life for yourself.

I know who you wish to be in that independent life with you and I wish the same for you. And I know that wishing and thinking is not going to make it happen. So, study and keep yourself calm and resolute, strong.

Good night (for me) and please, do take care of yourself.

anita